^ what they said. Start with the most popular Shounen ais, see the related lists (scroll in a manga title page to see which lists has it) then continue. Personally I like BL with proper stories so I don't like a lot of popular BL titles, and that's okay. BL are originally written by women for women so sometimes there are unrealistic aspects in it and that's just how it is. Keep trying to look for BL that suits your palate, there are so so many good titles out there and try to focus less on genres that irritate you. Also keep in mind that here people are really unashamed being degenerates, so don't stress yourself by trying to get their moral straight.. you'll only tire yourself that way. Sorry I'm writing a whole fucking essay, and have a good day. :)
and then random shit like rape is added just to keep the horniness going. Like no stop glorifying this, fiction is not an excuse. And 9/10 times it’s not addressed as something evil and brushed under the rug or acted like it was a necessary struggle. I fucking hate people sometimes bc nothing you’ve possibly gone through yourself can justify romanticizing toxic shit like that.