I totally respect your opinion but I don't think the bottom was being selfish at all. Why is it selfish to treasure his feelings for someone he really loved? Why should he forget someone he once was happy with just because he is dead. Why does he have to forget just because someone new came? I don't know if you ever lost someone friend or lover but when I lost my best friend years ago-till today I can't just let go because we went through so much I shared so many memories with them why should I forget it and let it go? Why does someone always have to change and can't stay the way he is with all his flaws? If you don't like something you also has the option to just leave them and try finding someone who fits your lifestyle... I don't know if I may sound rash but I was just trying to make you understand. It's your decision to stay and not the others responsiblity to change for you and the other way around. You can tell them what you don't like but if they don't want to work on it don't push it and just leave it be or leave them. You will just hurt them and yourself if you push them to do things they don't wanna change.
I hope my explanation helped understand a bit more and changed your view about things or maybe not but it's okay..
And again I don't mean any harm! I don't wanna start a fight or something!!!
I think there is a difference between forgetting and getting over. That’s probably what the comment ment
I completely agree with you!! 100%
I think they still not married till the end, even though they already have children. I think if you have started a new life, there is no point in reminiscing about the past, I feel sorry for the current partner. It's like someone walking forward hand in hand but one person keeps looking back. I find it selfish. but everyone's view is different.