Look at all the victim blaming in the comments. You say that having a traumatic past is n...

Thank you !

Thank you! I got so frustrated seeing people hate on him cause they literally explained WHY he couldn't even seem like he liked Reina.

louder for the people with missing braincells sis

This is always the problem for some. They only see the ML's sufferings but does not see the suffering of other people surrounding the ML. I just cannot.

i can understand why you said so much «  in defense «  But reasons will never be excuses or justifications
Empathy is all good, but it needs strong discernment

There’s a big difference between understanding the reasons (all good), and accepting the results (not acceptable)
There’s no excuses or justification to child or women abuse, to rape and murder - even if there are probably « reasons » for the one provoking any of these situations

Most abusive people were victims at a point - that’s quite a problem, but home violence are giving scary statistics - so how to end a vicious circle ?

By accepting there are « reasons « , you certainly are on the way to a solution

But, there’s a need for big huge distinction : There’s a big tendency to finding « shared responsibility «  to excuse the current violence
Doing so not only does not help, but reinforce the abuser as it « legitimate «  the act, so why stop ? It also creates new victims who become « guilty » of their own misery

In reality, two problems are distinct :
- the abuser was a victim (and he/she might need help if he actively wants to change/heal)
- the current victim, most likely is not responsible
-> he/she is absolutely not responsible for the past
-> and most certainly behave in no way that justify the abuse he/she has to endure
-> (some people with a past of abuse can trigger a normal person into abusive behaviors, it’s thankfully very rare) it’s not the case in most stories

When it comes to the current victim, he/she needs care, understanding and protection - he/she doesn’t need accusations or « shared responsibility « on the contrary, she/ he needs to be listened to, so that he can move away from guilt - the violence has to stop, he/she need a safe place to heal, accessible at any time

There are programs for abusers too (some very much like AA, not every therapy is efficient too)

There’s a big possibility that former victim are becoming abuser themselves because deep inside they still are searching for a reason to what happened to them
If this help can be provided sooner, there’s less chance to fall in the same patterns

Blaming the victim certainly won’t bring short term or long term relief

So again, because it’s a very important thing to keep in mind, please make the distinction between reasons, and excuses / justification
You can have reasons for anything, they most likely need to be heard to get over (active listening or modern therapy )
But the reasons seldom are excuses or justification to excess and abuse
That’s it folk :)

Having a good heart is a great thing, so let’s make smart use of it ;)

I'm not excusing his behavior, it was shitty behavior, but as for ways go deal with it, pretty sure they don't have AA meetings either. My point was that while I don't condone what he did, I know understand how it came to be, and I acknowledge his attempt at trying to correct his mistakes :)

You’ve got a sweet heart, that’s super nice ;)