Finally a person with a working brain ^^
I see what you mean. The only thing I don’t like is that I feel like Alex did not get the fine print. He is talking about being a sperm donor and being a father figure to the possible kid. I mean, the kid would be his but not really. That’s not a comfortable position for cole to be in. He did not ask to be a step-father at the age of 22. Also, the friends should tell him that he will not be the father. I feel like that was not explained which is why cole is freaking out.
alex said "it's not like i'll be the kid's father".
But he also said that he would want to be a father figure for the kid-kids.
he actually didn't, he said he'd want kids of his own one day, but that donating sperm and then hanging out with the kid every once in a while wouldn't be so bad (and even if the kid WANTED alex in his life as a father figure, alex couldn't legally do so without the lesbians permission. personally i think the lesbian want to be parents together... not have alex as a co-parent). but i think we both agree that alex doesn't understand the fine print.
ya'll probably don't mean to, but some of ya'll sound either lesbophobic or obvious-not-adults.
the lesbians are doing good. it's not weird of them to ask their close friend, whom they care for and can have open candid conversations with about physical and mental health history, to be a sperm doner. and the fact that alex is in a relationship doesn't make it weird at all, they're involving their friends partner in a big decision, which is polite and good. they lesbians have done no wrong here.
cole is sort of right; alex might be taking donating sperm too lightly, because the kid will grow up and might be curious as to who his biological dad was, and might want to get to know him.
alex is also sort of right though; there's no harm in meeting the kid for ice cream, it's not like he'll raise them or even have legal rights to do so.
but they're both wrong. cole is using logic to hide his insecurities. alex isn't thinking about the further responsibilities like being a blood doner, possible eligible guardian of custody in the event of an emergency, the child maybe wanting a present father later in life (since he is friends of the parents aka the lesbians).
it's scary to get sperm donations from a nameless faceless tube at the sperm bank (and expensive), and it is much more comforting to know the genes your baby will have. once again, the lesbians have done everything right in this situation.