i think you guys should talk it out. cuz many things end because of misunderstandings . like u can either share ur feelings directly or you can test it out by saying "i am feeling low" or "i am not feeling well" and look at their reply. it will tell u if they are sincere or not. and if they arent . maybe just stay friends and tr to talk to other people seeing who matches ur vibes and stuff .
thank you for the advice! i will try to do so soon but looking at her previous reply i can actually see how insincere her replies were.everytime i share with her what i felt and how tired i am dealing with my mental illness she will just ignore it and talk about something else.sometimes i do feel like im the only one whos try hard to keep our friendship and im like giving the best i can whenever she was feeling down while when im feeling down her replies seems uninterested to the point im so done with her
if its not working out then am sorry to say but maybe u need to take a break from her and talk to new people. like make more friends maybe? online or real doesnt matter as long as they are genuine and nice. or u can give ur frnd and urself some space , maybe she is going through something as well. but listening to u it looks like maybe she changed. u can ask if she's okay or not but i would definitely recommend making new friends and socializing a lil . since it wouldnt be worth staying with a person who doesnt ive a shit about u just cuz u dont have other frnds.
yeah strangers are nice. lol that does not sound right. um but yeah strangers sometimes offer good advice.
she probably is changing you probably are too. it also might feel like you're not as close to her as before. thats normal. im not you so i dont know what you feel but personally when it happens to me (and it recently happened with a group of my closest friends) i just try to move on. make new connections. maybe im too apathetic about it but its just life and if there are ppl who will come to me more comfortably and i can go to them then its a win win situation.
sry thats not rly advice but hope ur able to find a good confidante or connect with your friend again
Hi! so I'm an introvert and I'm going to assume your friend is too. social burnout (as I call it) sucks and it causes (most) people to not have energy and not want to talk to people. You should try and talk to them I have had friendships ruined because the other person thought that I didn't like them anymore. But if she doesn't want to be your friend then that's their loss (I am assuming you're a pretty cool person ;=;) and if you think that she doesn't want to be friends with you anymore then you can choose if you want to try and salvage it or if you want to end it. (sorry if this doesn't make sense I am bad at showing what I'm thinking :P)
first of all thank you for all the replies :D
tbh i really want to make new friends but idk its hard for me to socialize i dont really know how to meet new friends in the internet im a really bad/dry texter to someone i barely know ;-; im thinking of stop texting my best friend since she found someone new which is a guy she met recently while playing games sigh im not stopping her or anything but she always complained about how trashy guys are but yet she still texts them sigh i rarely text with guys so idk how to reply when she ask about my opinions weather that dude like her or not :// its not like i dont want to answer but i srsly have no idea and when i say that dude might like her then she gonna be like 'no we are only bestfriend' land when i say he prolly dont like you she gonna be like 'he treats me specially' like girllllllll what kind of reply do u want me to answer T-T
anyway dear strangers thank u for hearing my rant :D
thats truee i really need to make new friends sigh since i realize that i actually feel more tired emotionally after texting her ;-; i wish i have the courage and great socializing skills to make new friends :) idk but the people in my school usually assumes im arrogant since i have resting btch face.and the worst part is i always get ignored and dont get treated nicely like other people
i mean u can normal talk her but dont give her ur energy as much as u used to. talk like she's just a frnd now. and by looking at the upper comment u made it looks like u guys dont meet each other's vibes maybe. and about the online frnds. yh i cant talk with strangers as well. but like maybe in ur class small talk with someone. or like u can play games to make online frnds maybe. and maybe wherever u go try to make small talk with people. u never know u might just meet the most amazing person u could ever have.
and just be genuinely nice to everyone but not too nice they might think u r a pushover.
if its emotionally draining u then dont. just dont text her. i can assure u u will feel sooo nice when u dont have to burden with someone's toxicity . and about friends. its ok dont need to hurry. u can work on urself first. try to be more cheerful , but not fake. be genuinely nice but know how to say no. try to be more social and other stuff
i actually hate the most about my self that i always ended up giving so much energy even though at first i was planning to just reply shortly idk maybe thats my toxic personality or something. i did talk with my other classmate but i dont really get close to them because all of them have their own group of friends
i dont think you need to actively avoid talking to her. i have the same experience being a dry texter as well. i find im a lot more engaging if its about topics i enjoy, you might be the same? luckily i found some ppl i just click with and in the heat of the moment i just said hey i like talking to you a lot wanna trade "wtvsocialmedia" dont think too hard about it. keep doing what you want. enjoy life and all that jazz. and in the end you rly dont need to have someone always filling that "best friend" role. and in any case, not to be mean, but to be completely honest, that friend of yours or former friend sounds like a pick me girl. the way i see it, its just best to let this relationship fade out. if ever u need anyone to rant to again or just discuss stuff my messages are always open. ^_^
omg aaaaa u are so nice to the point im so touched and yupp i do think i get very excited to talk about my mangas boyss and shoujo mangas
but yk whenever i talked about it with my 'best friend' she will be like 'pft so boring' 'all mangas you read are so boring' 'you need help stop falling for fictional characters' 'you dont even have a love life'
dont worry ur english is perfectly fine . (๑•ㅂ•)و✧ lol u r around my age . and dont worry about ur frnd. u just go with the flow. if u feel its too toxic u can cut ties anytime. these situations just make u grow as a person and u will know how to handle situations better in the future. and yes i am an army n.n i think ur too? and theres literary nothing wrong with liking fictional characters. liking a fictional character is like liking a celebrity , it doesnt matter if they exist or not , we aint getting them anyways so y not atleast have a crush on them. my bestfriend doesnt really like anime and stuff but when i talk to her about it she would pay as much attention as she can. she's literary the best person ever. so u need to find a person like that. and dont worry just work on urself and u will eventually get some nice friends
i can actually feel how sincere that advice is unlike how i talk to my best friend.its not like she dont reply to me or be there for me but its just that i feel like shes not giving the same amount of energy that i gave her when she needed me.plus i have no one to talk to other than her :/ i do have other friends but the one who i share my feelings the most is her.but i feel like shes changing these days :/