Sigh...

Kisaki June 18, 2021 3:36 am

Why do Chinese BL authors romanticize codependence and use sex as a solution to everything?

I'm reading this story where ML got really upset because someone brought up something about his past that he still hasn't been able to let go even after many years has passed, so to calm his anger, he goes to MC's house and starts having sex with him while MC is asleep. Like WTF? They've been together for a while and have had sex many times now, so I'm not against the idea of waking your S/O up with sex if you fall asleep together, but poor MC didn't know ML would sneak into his house and into his bed to suddenly start having sex with him.

To be supportive of each other is great, but I don't think that support should come in the form of sex. If ML is very angry and upset and needs the MC's support, cuddling or talking about it while cuddling, or even crying together should be good. Why "calm down his anger with sex"? Makes no sense whatsoever. Looks to me that this is actually using sex as an escape to avoid the problem here. So unhealthy

And this is not the only story I've read where a couple starts having sex because one of them is very upset and they use sex to calm them down or make them feel better. Like HOW? When someone is very upset and feeling awful, how are they supposed to get in the mood to even do it?

Makes no sense whatsoever

Responses
    Leyana June 18, 2021 3:39 am

    I have never seen a chinese manhua with explicit scene so which one r u talking about give me the name

    imaima June 18, 2021 3:42 am
    I have never seen a chinese manhua with explicit scene so which one r u talking about give me the name Leyana

    Commenting bc same sorry

    Kisaki June 18, 2021 3:50 am
    I have never seen a chinese manhua with explicit scene so which one r u talking about give me the name Leyana

    Oh, it's not a manhua but a novel lol. Sorry if it was misleading. I just thought that BL manga/manhwa/manhua readers would also like BL novels and I needed somewhere to vent, so I wrote it here. Chinese BL novels can be really good btw. If you haven't read any before, I totally recommend doing so. Quickly Wear the Face of the Devil is my favorite. Mo Dao Zu She (The Founder of Diabolism) is also a novel, although it's being adapted to a manhua now, so if you aren't reading it yet, I totally recommend it.

    Leyana June 18, 2021 4:00 am
    Oh, it's not a manhua but a novel lol. Sorry if it was misleading. I just thought that BL manga/manhwa/manhua readers would also like BL novels and I needed somewhere to vent, so I wrote it here. Chinese BL nov... Kisaki

    Ah no it's fine I technically thought it must be manhua but I'm not so interested in reading novels yet so thanks for rec if I ever will do read them for sure

    Yunnn June 18, 2021 4:18 am
    Oh, it's not a manhua but a novel lol. Sorry if it was misleading. I just thought that BL manga/manhwa/manhua readers would also like BL novels and I needed somewhere to vent, so I wrote it here. Chinese BL nov... Kisaki

    Do you have other recommendations for Chinese bl novels? I really want to read too

    Kisaki June 18, 2021 4:30 am
    Do you have other recommendations for Chinese bl novels? I really want to read too Yunnn

    Yeah, sure. I've read a lot of novels. It depends on what you like to read though. I mostly like fluffy and cute stories with healthy couples, so I mostly have recommendations for that. But just let me know what type of BL you like and I can recommend you some stuff. Do you like shorter stories, longer stories, cute and fluffy, plot heavy, simple story, top protagonist, bottom protagonist, mpreg, smutty, transmigration? The only type I can't really recommend you is abusive. I don't like that so I don't read that.

    Yunnn June 18, 2021 5:03 am
    Yeah, sure. I've read a lot of novels. It depends on what you like to read though. I mostly like fluffy and cute stories with healthy couples, so I mostly have recommendations for that. But just let me know wha... Kisaki

    That's great. I'm still reading The Wife is First and How to Survive as a Villain(still ongoing) and I like the couples a lot. I guess I like longer stories with lovey dovey couple but somewhat smut (=・ω・=).mpreg and transmigration are good too.

    Kisaki June 19, 2021 12:46 am
    That's great. I'm still reading The Wife is First and How to Survive as a Villain(still ongoing) and I like the couples a lot. I guess I like longer stories with lovey dovey couple but somewhat smut (=・ω�... Yunnn

    Oh, I was reading "The Wife is First" as well but I ran out of chapters so I've been waiting for the translation to finish before reading it. I see that the ones you're reading are a bit longer and plot play an important part. So here goes:
    I recommend:

    -Quickly Wear the Face of the Devil - It's a quick transmigration one. The plot is awesome, the main characters are OP and awesome and there's smut. The main story is completely translated. I think it's not marked as completed because of the extras, but tbh, those don't matter.

    -The Founder of Diabolism (Mo Dao Zu Shi) - Rebirth (MC dies and comes back to life in a different body). It takes a while for the couple to get together but it's ABSOLUTELY worth it. The story is beautifully written and everything ties up at the end.

    -Rebirth of a Movie Star - As the tittle, MC is reborn, but he's reborn a few years in the past as himself. This one is a bit shorter, but it has adorable children and the couple is lovey dovey and the story is super satisfying to read.

    -Stone Age Husband Raising Journal - Transmigration. This is mostly cute and fluffy. Not a lot of intrigue But the couple is very cute.

    -Home of the Zerg - Transmigration. MC is the gong/seme/top. Manlier men give birth. Not a lot of plot and it's a short one, but there's smut and the couple is cute.

    Now for some good ones that aren't completely translated yet, but I've finished reading because I read the raws (I can read Chinese):

    -Transmigrated into the Film Emperor's Death-Seeking Fiance - Transmigration into a book. Mpreg. The rating is lower than the others I've recommended, but I quite liked it. Idk why the rating is so low.

    -The Only Favorite Ugly Husband - Transmigration. MC is the gong/seme/top. World with 3 sexes. Mpreg. Great extras.

    -I Became A Virtuous Wife and Loving Mother in Another Cultivation World - Transmigration to the distant past. Mpreg. I don't recommend reading the extras. Only read the main story.

    I'll recommend these for now. Enjoy. If you want more recommendations, I can recommend more, but the ones on this list are ones that I really liked. There are others that are good as well, it's just that they are not as memorable.

    Yunnn June 19, 2021 9:14 am
    Oh, I was reading "The Wife is First" as well but I ran out of chapters so I've been waiting for the translation to finish before reading it. I see that the ones you're reading are a bit longer and plot play an... Kisaki

    Omaigad, thank you very much for your recommendations