I kinda needed to hear this honestly. Idk what "phobia" it's called (not sure if I can call it a phobia either) but lesbians always sort of scare me. To note, I'm a girl. This would include GL stories as well. I don't hate them and I do respect them, but I just feel deeply uncomfortable. I have friends that are Bi and lesbians but if I see them kissing I just feel slightly "erred". I think it's probably because when I was in Highschool, I had a classmate who'd keep giving me random "mooches" and smack on the lips claiming that she had a crush on me. To make it worse, she'd do it in public. I told her to stop multiple times but up until before the start of the pandemic (where we finally no longer saw each other), they'd keep doing it. Funny thing is, I know that me being her crush isn't serious since she's got a ton of crushes, in and outside of school.
what your friend did isn't cool and it's not good that she kept crossing your boundaries but - and im going off on the assumption that your friend is straight cause you didn't specify whether she was bi/lesbian which is a weird detail NOT to include since you were talking about your weird bigotry over sapphics - projecting your feelings from what another straight girl did to you over towards random bi women and lesbians who have done nothing wrong to you is fucking gross. respectfully, go get therapy to sort all that weirdo shit out. disrespectfully? as a bi woman i hope you die. sick of you straight cunts getting grossed off over gay people simply showing love and affection towards another and not realizing you're feeding into the very things that fucking kill us.
I forgot to note but yes, that particular classmate is openly a lesbian. Everyone in our class knew, they kept shipping her with me and she kept trying to kiss me.
That and whenever did I project that trauma over another person? I have other friends who are bi and even lesbian. I don't give sht who they date or like. I'm only referring to GL mangas and stories. I don't care if anyone around me is gay, bi, lesbian or what but just as much as straight people call noncon kisses and shit assault, shouldn't it be the same with everyone regardless of gender and sex? I sympathize with whatever may have happened to you that made you react that way. But a friendly reminder not to tell anyone "I hope you die". Cause when they do, hun I swear you would have a hard time sleeping with that. Sincerely coming from someone who's been through that.
What is wrong with you? I think you are the one who needs a therapist if someone u do not know talks about their bad history and resulting uncomfortable feelings and you tell them to die. Nothing will excuse your behavior
I agree that the person telling you to die wasn't the right action but please recieve therapy for your trauma like what did you even expect saying this shit in a story specifically made with gay people. They're not wrong in saying that people like make others who are not straight or normal want to legit die.
I'm a lesbian who has had friends like you in the past who would be like 'yea no I'm your friend but listen can you not like share stuff about your sexuality with me, just keep it to yourself. Idk it just makes me uncomfortable lol' like ok?? That's a you problem if you have trouble or trauma with queer people don't make queer friends and stay away from queer spaces before you find the time and peace to get therapy. I have been heavily sexually assaulted before by my guy cousins and other family members. But if because of that I started saying to all dudes 'hey, ik we're friends but can you not touch or talk about your preferences in front of me?' how do you think they would feel. As someone who has suffered through years of sexual abuse (including rape) but made the effort to seek therapy, I can confidently say sexual abuse does not excuse having shitty ideas about a whole group of people.
I agree that these are some of the many, many things that drive queer youths to suicide however that doesn't mean that you should tell someone to die. One person solely is not the reason for the disproportionate rates of suicide and self harm that queer youths undergo each year. Life sucks and that's the ultimate truth I wasted way, way tm time being angry at the world before realizing there's no point, no matter how much you scream into the void there's really no filling it. I got therapy (a lot of it) and grew up before I made my peace with this. Anyways I hope you find your peace as well
Nope you projected your trauma over a whole group my friend. Its not about whether the person was straight or gay. Just because one straight guy raped me does not mean that I should project that trauma over a whole group of straight men and get icked out whenever theyre kissing another woman. Yea, I understand why you don't go out of your way to read gl but saying that your get 'erred' when you see them kiss like??? You did not say 'just gl' you said whenever you see girls kissing you feel uncomfortable. Listen I sympathize with what happened to you. I really hope you find peace and seek therapy. But trauma does not excuse bigotry. Also when I was in high school one of my straight girl bffs would smack my ass and touch my boobs all the time and then would joke 'ofc she likes it she's a d*ke'. One even took off her leggings on video cam and asked whether I wanted to kiss her when we met up next. These were all straight women. Was I utterly traumatized and would cry into my pillow daily? Yes. Did I get out of high school talk to my siblings about it for hours and finally hash out my trauma? Also, yes. There are different methods of coping but I realized that I was uncomfortable being around straight couples or even straight people. Thus I was projecting my trauma and justifying my bigotry, so I sought help, got to the root of my problem and learned to effectively cope.
Also, if you're in high school, please seek help about this trauma in uni.
Nope you projected your trauma over a whole group my friend. Its not about whether the person was straight or gay. Just because one straight guy raped me (happened when i was 6-7) does not mean that I should project that trauma over a whole group of straight men and get icked out whenever theyre kissing another woman. Yea, I understand why you don't go out of your way to read gl but saying that your get 'erred' when you see them kiss like??? You did not say 'just gl' you said whenever you see girls kissing you feel uncomfortable. Listen I sympathize with what happened to you. I really hope you find peace and seek therapy. But trauma does not excuse bigotry. Also when I was in high school one of my straight girl bffs would smack my ass and touch my boobs all the time and then would joke 'ofc she likes it she's a d*ke'. One even took off her leggings on video cam and asked whether I wanted to kiss her when we met up next. These were all straight women. Was I utterly traumatized and would cry into my pillow daily? Yes. Did I get out of high school talk to my siblings about it for hours and finally hash out my trauma? Also, yes. There are different methods of coping but I realized that I was uncomfortable being around straight couples or even straight people. Thus I was projecting my trauma and justifying my bigotry, so I sought help, got to the root of my problem and learned to effectively cope.
Also, if you're in high school, please seek help about this trauma in uni.
Dk why this reposted THREE times like tf
Let me say this...we don't get the right to dismiss someone feelings especially their trauma. Yes, it's unfortunate and a blunt prejudice because Bisexuals can be faithful, just as much as others but if a person was hurted and then decided to not date bisexuals, it's not our right to say that they are biphobic and should fix their perception, clearly they are traumatized. I've a friend that broke up w/ his bf of 4 years bc his ex wanting to get married 'normally' and have childrens. If you are approaching a homosexual while being bi, please keep showing your sincerity and prove them you can wholeheartedly love them. Trauma, anxiety is not something that can be cured in a short time period or just by words.