Caring understanding seme list
https://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/915325/
Wholesome stories list
https://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/915361/
Good luck finding something decent. In my own experience, reading BL is a roll of the dice. Sometimes you find something good and other times it's literally rape framed as "cute/hot". Anyways, I recommend Sandu, Sokuochi Yarichin Yankee, Ake Nure Goyou ni Furu Yuki wa, and mostly any doujin by 3745house :)
Thank you so much ╥ v ╥
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/the_honest_life_of_a_game_studio/ these guys talk about their relationship in between adventuring.
I just want to finally read something where the characters develop the relationship first and then actually do stuff with consent and shit. Not just the usual stuff I see.