YES GO OFF SIS. 100% AGREE
And completely brush off the fact that Yahwi tried to make things right for so many times? While he's still learning what those "right things" are?
I see so many people here who seems to never deal with people with behaviour issues, personality issues, etc.
And expect everyone to "follow the right path/guidelines" when it comes to treating someone else.
It ain't that bubbly life.
Yawhi was wrong, no one denies that.
But he's changing into a better person.
And people don't give him second chance and already labeled him as a horrible person.
someone who had drunk sex with a person he didn't ask the consent of doesn't deserve a second chance. he didn't even change after that "i wanna make him smile" bs he got jealous on his own, went and forcefully kissed him again. the only real life lesson you could take from something like this is that it's not your responsibility to fix/change anyone or give them another chance just because they're asking for it. it doesn't make you selfish but someone who has the self respect to let go of someone that causes you pain. you don't have to be anyone's therapist
No, the real life lesson you can take from this is: you're not the one who get to decide who they can forgive.
Again, you're talking from a normal life POV.
What's "a good person supposed to do".
When life isn't just about good people, we have bad people who made bad decision and trying to change or pushed to change.
You don't have to be anyone therapist but you can be someone's hope.
How many criminals do you think trying to change for their kids? A LOT.
That's why we have a parole system in the jail, to give people second chance.
If the victim's willing to forgive, who are you to decide? ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
it's not up to me to decide who anyone forgives but i can form an opinion on if that's a stupid decision or not. i don't understand the pressure to 'wait for someone to change' or 'give them a second chance'. that's what a stereotypical 'good person' would do when in real life, your own mental health can be your top priority and that's okay. if you keep giving someone chances when they claim they're gonna change for you but do the same mistakes over and over again you're not some saint being anyone's 'hope', you're an idiot who thinks life is some wattpad story where you can fix toxic bad guys with love. if they're trying to change they should start by getting therapy and distancing themselves from everyone they have the potential of abusing, being a better person is their responsibility only.
Nah, a good person will think like you.
"keep giving someone chances".
Nope. He hasn't even give him second chance.
Read again.
Uke went along with being sex buddy and have this vague relationship before he confess. That's when Seme started to questioned things and "ignored" the Uke.
We're on a seme "trying to get a second chance situation.
Again, you never deal with people who have issues.
Good or you :)
But life isn't that simple.
No one stopped you from having your own opinion.
Same applied for me.
I can have mine as well.
thank you for calling me a good person i guess but no. a stupidly 'good person' would feel guilty and waste their years away waiting for someone to change when they could just say it's over and move on.
jooin gave him countless chances just by being undecisive and not putting distance between them when he was supposed to. did yahwi ever change? hell no. he said he wants to make him smile and all but there he goes forcefully kissing him again. even if he eventually ends up changing you can't just say "oh you're a nicer person now so all is forgotten" that's not realistic at all, sometimes it's better to just part ways
all i ever deal with is people with issues, i know all too well that life ain't all sunshine and rainbows. the only problem is that i'm not in a situation where i can just leave, jooin can.
He doesn't understand he's own feelings AT ALL. Jooin deserves better then the shitty act he put on. HE DID NOT CHANGE. I repeat he's the same person. He is trying to have control over Jooin. Remember when he said that he wouldn't call it love that he feels towards Jooin. He just hates the fact that Jooin was taken away from him. Second chance my ass.
And by "chances" you mean him letting Yawhi figure it out what's the change is and what he wants from him.
That's not how it works for people like Yawhi.
Yes means yes, no means no.
Now we see Jooin being firm and actually make Yawhi re-think or what he should do.
But that's not how it is at the beginning.
At the beginning, Jooin just let Yahwi do what he wanted, then feel upset and leaving Yahwi, then feel better again after Yahwi showed a bit of care.
Yahwi saw their relationship as "win-win" situation while Jooin saw him as genuinely love interest.
And Yahwi is at a stage where he figured out it's not just about sex.
I've been with so many spoiled, rich kids. And they genuinely don't know that for some money isn't everything.
They used to have maid doing everything, they don't even know how to cook an egg.
I've been with many kids from broken homes who genuinely think that if girls won't listen to you, you can beat them.
You don't just stay close to them and expect them to figure it out
You straight up tell them and guide them the right way.
Nah, you can just leave.
You just know it's gonna be bad if you leave so you stay.
It's the same with Jooin.
The only difference is not the "responsible" but his "feeling" that "forced" him to stay.
Exactly, he doesn;t understand.
And he's trying to figure it out.
People like that exists.
Those who need help to see things as not simply profiting from something.
And you don't have to help them if you don't want to.
But don't stop others from wanting to help.
Jooin is willing to give him second chance and help him (spoiler) and I'm here for it :)
I can understand how some readers could be upset with cain because of what he did and I’m not excusing it, but you can not compare it with what Yahwi did. Yahwi denied what happened and blamed jooin for everything not feeling a shred of guilt until jooin brought it up. But cain on the other hand, did something wrong and already knew his mistake and planned to tell and apologise to jooin the morning after. Yahwi STILL hasn’t told jooin he basically sexually assaulted him and blames jooin. Saying, and I quote, “ you’re the one who didn’t remember. Isn’t it your fault?“ (chapter 22). All I’m saying is at least cain seems to realise what he did wrong and plans to apologise. (Ps sorry if there are grammar and spelling mistakes I am very tired #－.－)