No it's not. It's just that that's the trope years ago, and the new trope nowadays is the latter of what you said. I suggest searching mangas, not manhwas especially the older ones.
The most normal paced series I can think of are
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/a_rare_marriage_how_to_grill_our_love/ this
But yeah, IMO normal paced series are supppppperrr hard to find. I've been trying to think and search normal-paced story, so far, I only found one ;-;
I agree! its hard to navigate them with how mangago is coordinated
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/i_m_nearly_30_but_this_is_my_first_love/
https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/futari_ashitamo_sorenarini/
this list has relationships that progress https://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/1125902/?filter=&page=1
Is it hard to find stories that progress normally ? Like strangers or friends or whatever they are. they fall in love then they date then they have sex like all normal ppl out there instead of having sex first thheeenn think of falling in love and date