i think because yaoi has more interesting plots and stuff unlike gl/yuri. ive tried looking for gl w good plots and haven’t found any. plus there’s more bl/yaoi than there is gl/yuri.
hii, i read both bl and gl and i can admit that bl is more... interesting, i guess? since there is more plot and also bl is a lot more popular than gl, which means there’s more of it to. it can be sometimes difficult to find good gl to read. don’t worry about it, i don’t think ur fetishising mlm.
Okay thank u guys for your replies but I forgot to add this that I love watching gay porn with cute boys and I tried watching lesbi prn but I don't like their faces they be ugly bitches and Im lucky if I find sum cute girls havin sex but they all look like buff mamas so I go back to gay porn so uh?!?! Is it also bc twinks are cuter and mostly in lesbi prn looks like mamas who just got finished in some labor?!?!
I hope someone can answer this is really a serious matter to me and I cant stop thinking that I really might fetishizing gays and I would really hate myself for that even though I like girls more irl
where do u watch porn? but i cant help you w that, i dont watch gay porn lol, i find it weird that you dont find any good lesbian porn bcs there’s plenty out there.
I dont know I just randomly search it but do u know any site with lesbi porn with cute girls?? I always end up with the old mama type bitches
If you want some answer then answer my question:
1.) Do you experience sexual pleasure while thinking or seeing gay people (in reality)?
2.) Do you "only" experience sexual pleasure while thinking or seeing gay people?
Then if one of this are yes, then you are fetishizing, but if your answer is you have arousal to BL manga or manhwa and not in real life, then you touch some grass because in the future, you might achieve sexual pleasure for real gays.
To be explain more, lets compare kink and fetish. Kinks are something that "add sexual pleasure in sex" such as BDSM and roleplay,
But fetish are something that can "only awake your sexual pleasure" and example are leg fetish or even gay fetish, such as: you can only get arouse when you see a beautiful leg or you see "real life gays"
In my conclusion, I think liking BL is different from fetishizing gays, but if you are experiencing sexual arousal from seeing gay men "in real life" then you are fetishizing
People nowadays use the word fetish without clearly defining what is it. They will say as long as you "like" gay people the you are fetishizing, But it is a BIG NO, you only fetishize if your experience sexual arousal. Liking gay man is different from having arousal because of gay men.
Note: I keep repeating the point in so you can understand it more clearly
Im also sorry for the typo Im just rereading my comment now
on twitter, i dont rly like using web sites loll.
Omg thank u for the reply. To answer the no. 1 & 2: I don't really get aroused thinking about gay people irl (well except if im reading manhwa/hua and if I'm watching sum cute gay porn but I hardly really get aroused bc It's hard to find a cute bottom ) but does it count? Whenever I see gay people irl I just think that they look cute and that's all.
It is not a fetish, getting aroused in gay porn is not a fetish because getting arouse in gay porn is what they aim. HAHA porn aim to get you aroused, but if this arousal comes in abnormal or higher degree, then look for a Doctor because Im not an expert psychiatrist who can diagnosed a metal illness.
The only way that you are having a fetish is if this arousal in gay porn comes in higher degree, such as:
1.) You "only" get arousal from gay porn (straight and lesbian porn is no for you)
2.) You get obsessed with a gay porn (you are craving for it)
As long as you dont worship (or obsessively) seek for gay porn then it is not a fetish.
Here is a BL manga that portrays fetish: https://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/jackass_sawatte_ii_tte_dare_ga_itta_yo/
> The seme gets hard for beautiful legs in "higher degree" such as worshipping and obsessively looking for the best legs in japan
Okay thank u for the answer it somehow enlightens me
Welcome, I'm not that expert in this topic, but hopefully you are enlightened
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Im bi but I've been more flirting with girls but I don't like reading yuri I mean I don't hate it and I have read some but It's just yaoi gets my attention more (I don't have a crush to any guy irl but I also get interested in them if they're my type) Am I fetishizing gays? Help I don't like thinking that I'm like that.