Thank you so much for this commeng
She shouldn't be blamed for finding a new love but she should be blamed for abandoning a child....
riiight? i was not vibing a lot of the comments below tbh. i mean, obviously, her reaction is a bad one, but its such a realistic reaction that a lot of parents have toward finding out their kid is in a gay relationship. i know a LOT of people's parents, my mom included, where one of their first reaction was to say "is this my fault?"
So is the child stays with the mother, would you blame the father for abandoning the child? For all we know, this could be the resolution they came up with while going through divorce settlement. It's not like she just suddenly disappeared without saying anything
Exactly! If there's anything to blame, we should blame religions for perpetuating the idea that homosexuality is evil.
Her reaction surely is better than acting like she doesn't know or take it seriously...
IKR! I think the problem is that she acted as if she had been with him all the time, not an apologetic or open attitude. She wasn´t with him so she does NOT HAVE ANY RIGHT to say anything plus the "surprise" of the sister was not a positive point either. She just shoved her egoistic reality onto him. it´s "her" fault, "her" daughter, "her" son, "her" interest in knowing, "her" judgement"... "her" views. no room for him as himself
I excuse if it´s a bit chaotic
I'd like this comment if it wasn't predicated on shaming people you don't agree with.
Do explain why you think I am shaming those who don't share the same view.
Bullshit comment for a bullshit reason. Unlike many other there are no hateful words and it's true what she says.
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We acually don't know that. All we know that they hadn't been meeting for a long time...at least 4-5 years. I don't think divorce and moving out MEANS abandoning a child but not seeing child for 4-5 years means it... she couldn't loose her parental rights because she cheated... he was still just a kid 5 years ago and he needed mother even If he acted like he didn't need her.... and she is an adult...she is his mother and she should do something.
That's a fair point. She shouldn't have waited that long to reconnect with her son. Maybe there are reasons behind it, but I won't go into that. At least she is trying to reach out to him again now, that's better than nothing.
Actually you're kind of making my point for me. People who are too cowardly to engage with other people they don't agree with are totally being assholes. That's the equivalent of not telling a friend who's wearing a white dress that her period's started but then posting about it on Facebook. But you and me, baby, we're having a CONVERSATION! That's how you do it, bitch. (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
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Yep, that right ^ ^ i hope she will accept her son :3
In Japan, there's no such thing as shared custody or visitation rights, Iread somewhere. So if you are leaving your husband and not taking the child with you, you lose contact with that child until they become an adult.
Are you 100% sure? O_O I mean...that would be terrible... I didn't know that...
At the risk of insulting someone, I have to say this is a mature point of view.
Thank you for your understanding.
I was mostly right. The parent who gets the child gets to decide visiting rights of the other parent. http://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2009/10/10/national/custody-laws-force-parents-to-extremes/
A lot of people seem to be badmouthing the mother, but I don't think she deserves all that criticism. First of all, while it was horrible that she cheated on her husband, let's not forget that the husband was also at fault for neglecting his family. Can you really blame her for wanting to find someone else that would appreciate her?
And she has all the good intention of wanting to connect to her son again. She tries to reach out because he is still her son and she still loves him. There's nothing wrong with still wanting to be in your children's lives.
Also, in a society where homosexuality is still being misunderstood and prejudiced against, her reaction would be quite reasonable. It's not a good reaction, but she doesn't really mean any harm. In fact, I would even argue that her reaction shows that, deep down, she still feels guilty for leaving the family.