Right?! I can’t believe this type of story exists in this day and age. Toxic misogyny at its FINEST. FL is literally being forced to stay alive for the sake of this shitty plot like all she wants is to die to end all her pain and suffering but NO the ML keeps on trying to act like he’s the victim and that he had it rough and that he knows everything. Now I can completely drop and forget about this story once and for all
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you cannot bring up toxic misogyny, while ignoring the ml's experiences. his suffering is just as valid as her suffering.
toxic misogyny not only affects women but also men. if you read the story, the only reason the ml is burying himself in work and getting money is because that's the only way a misogynistic society will consider him worthy of the fl. which is complete and utter bullshit just like what the fl experienced, being expected to humble herself and accept her shitty life because she's been "chosen" by a "good man."
if you can have empathy for the fl, you should also have empathy for someone forced to slave his life away to prove himself worthy of happiness just for people to shit on his hardwork by stealing and hurting the only person he wants to see happy.
they are both victims of misogyny and separated by a fucked up society. that's why they are so disconnected.
Sorry I probably shouldn’t have used the words “toxic misogyny”. I completely understand what your saying and honestly I don’t know too much about relationships like the main couple besides the miscommunication and mentally ill state that the both of them are in right now.
I’m just more frustrated towards the ML because from my point of view he’s never once made the effort to properly talk and work out things between him and the FL and I get that he’s also been through a lot of shit as well but I feel like he should be able to at least make more of an effort to communicate with his wife despite having gone through a rough past and also the FL as well of course but she’s not strong both mentally and physically atm and needs more help than the ML right now.
Also thank you for correcting me on the “toxic misogyny” part. I realized my mistake in using that particular term and will go and educate myself more about it before using it anytime in the future from now on.
I mean I get what you said but when he says he wants to see her happy, dude when she’s in the presence of him he undermines her, judges her, get’s frustrated and can’t care less to hear a single thing come out of her mouth. Dude shuts her up thinking it’s so un important cause to him he’s so deep in being the victim he undermines her every issue, he just wants her to stfu and look happy that’s what he truly wants. She killed herself twice and he can’t figure that the fuck out you fucking idiot all he’s thinking is she can’t appreciate anything I do for her like omg I’ve struggled more than you stfu still want you to look happy around me, but I really can’t see you cause I keep you far the fuck away. I also really just want you to stfu and be my doll of a fucking wife couldn’t care less of your mental stress or how you physically look like you’re literally dying or anything else but hey I’m still trying so hard for you to look happy but she can’t do what he wants “just look happy gawd she’s such a needy bitch”, when he literally wont hear her needs nor listen to the gossip about her that’s everywhere, that mother fucker. She tries but when she gives him the littlest pout in his eyes he’s such a victim that he instantly thinks she’s undermining his ethnicity, how he had a horrible upbringing or his low class. The story is just bad cause I don’t see how this is a romance that brings them together this is like an irl toxic relationship where the man gets frustrated plays a victim manipulates her train of thought to judge her and undermine her insulting that she’s never lived a day of hardship, man they need to break the fuck up that’s wtf they need, dude is so angry he can’t give a fuck about the person he needs to take care of he’s not in a healthy mind set at all he needs to just fucking send her far away to a desolate mansion by herself all alone and barely taken care of which was how it already is just without her having to deal with also being insulted and treated poorly and mentally drained by the social anxiety and insults she bares how does this man have no fucking clue wtf people spread about his wife?! His second man worried about her and all he said was why tf are you bringing her up you never have I don’t want to hear it. He just wants to make her money and nothing more cause he “doesn’t deserve more from her” he thinks so he ignores her WTF you actual piece of shit, victims should fuck off relationships honestly till they lose that victim mindset worst partners ever, every toxic partner feels like a victim, like in crazy rich asians the dude cheated and undermined his wife feeling inferior that she has more money than him, when she talks to him about it he plays victim then manipulates her train of thought to insult her and make her feel like she’s wrong then gets out of the car, look you fucking victim mindset losers who can’t appreciate life stfu or kys you fuck everyone up you messed up piece of shits, wtf do you want feeding an inferior mindset and judging your every mistake as if everyone knows your every flaw and everyone is out to get you so you tear others down till they kill themselves or a part of them which you tainted, most of the time like this Toxic Garbage you taint their happiness like this FL, good for fucking you. Dude like Rihanna is what this FL feels like, “You’re just gonna stand there and watch me burn.” Great fucking MC this is so shit even if they start getting all lovey and fucking dovey it’s gonna make my gut turn fuck this Toxic Garbage, shit.
thank you for being respectful, i appreciate that and i really appreciate your sincerity.
i agree that the misunderstandings in this story is really frustrating but why does it fall on the ml to make an effort to fix it? technically speaking he needs help more than anyone because his sense of self-esteem and self-worth is broken. he thinks he has no worth besides his money because all his life he's been made to feel like he's not worth for anything. in contrast the fl grew up in a loving and caring household and is raised very well without going through much hardship.
the ml isn't experiencing much abuse rn but he's basically a walking trauma. you cant expect him to be perfect and just set those traumas aside cause he's not perfect, just like how the fl couldn't handle her current shitty life.
the fl said it as well, "he doesn't know about me, just as much as i dont know about him." and ml is also starting to understand why his wife wants a divorce with him. they're both just starting to get to know each other.
i can tell you care about equality and feminism so i also suggest not to use the excuse that "she's not strong mentally and physically so he has to be the one fix her" men aren't a rehab for broken women, and vice versa. they both have issues, and until they both understand each other and each other's pain, none of them is capable of reaching out.
that's one of the epiphanies that creates a turn on the story. it gets the story running. personally i'm interested in how the author is gonna handle their traumas and how it's gonna go in the future. but if you find the story to still be unpleasant after all this then by all means.
I would’ve gone my whole life still having a huge dislike towards the ML if I had not read your take on his current situation so thank-you very much for informing me:) And also thanks for understanding where I’m trying to come from with my opinion especially correcting me on the part where I made it seem like she needed a man to fix her.
As you’ve said this is a problem for the BOTH of them to fix so they should properly solve their issues together with one another with each step they take towards (hopefully) coming to a complete understanding of each other.
I’m not one to start unnecessary drama and completely ignore other people’s opinions/statements when it comes to these type of topics. I like to listen and try to understand everyone’s pov and learn from my mistakes when it comes to using specific terms that shouldn’t be used in the way that I carelessly throw them out there like that.
Do I still want to continue on with this story?? Most likely not only because my heart can’t handle this type of angst lol (especially when the main character is a woman it hits harder for some reason) but I’ve definitely had a change of heart towards the ML now(▰˘◡˘▰)
let's just agree to just disagree. you're completely wrong and it's very evident that you dont have the brains and mental capacity to understand what im saying so i didn't even want to engage u hence why i directly quoted the other person.
ik you're embarrassed. it's okay. mistakes happen. this is gonna be my last response to you. nice talking to u.
i really do agree that this story hits right where it would hurt. because it's very a realistic situation.
it's a realistic problem that women are forced to humble themselves and take every bullshit thrown in their way because they have it "easy" or they're just being too emotional and they're not actually hurting "it's not that hard". shit like that happens every time towards women. and on the other hand, guys are forced to be emotionless, to get pointless achievements and amass useless wealth just to be considered a "good man" or "worthy" or attractive.
and this story perfectly illustrates the huge disconnect between men and women. even though they're both suffering and should work together to get better, they instead clash because they both end up having so many misconceptions towards each other. it's sad but very apparent.
this is just one of the few stories that doesn't just use the ml's trauma as a prop to be forgiven. so far it's been used to bridge a gap between the main couple and i find that satisfying in the midst of all the other bullshit that's happening in the story.
that said though, you have a valid reason for dropping this story. and for that, i have a huge respect for you as person, it's really been pleasant discussing this with you.
thank you for being mature and open-minded about everything. it's not easy to be and i really commend you for that.
You can say that without context about why you dgaf and would rather say shit without actually reading jack but I know you’re just shying away from the fact that you’ve just replied with a idgaf about what you’ve written twice and went to go jerk yourself off cause I know your sensitive small dick felt so good after typing that shit must be where your brain is. Please be my guest to stfu when no one ever asked you ever to respond TWICE LMAO.
I’ve lost brain cells seeing how stupid this shit is. Story sucks, this should be called “torture the heroine” cause the girl can’t even die and her piece of shit other is so dum af it’s frustrating how he could be so wealthy but not be able to manage shit with his money on top of his ignorant attitude, I really think he’s a piece of shit and just an imbecile for leaving his wife there and not taking her with him, everything he does is no shits about her he just says he does it all for her and sends her money that he can’t manage and is being stolen away and you fucking keep her miles away from you you fucking nitwit, you fucking idiot divorce her so she can get the fuck away from your toxic arse and her trash family you dumb idiot, she can safely live with her loving friend, this could be solved so easily but y’all have the most depressing victim ass attitudes. Fuck I hope I don’t pick this shit up again my energy and brain cells have been drained, can’t even find a favourite character among anybody they all lack what their characters need, dude can’t ride a horse reminds me of the dude who cheated on Adam and eve from Invincible. But worse he lacks any charisma, girl is basically dying and being tortured and has to rely on a dude that can’t do shit. My summary of this entire shit fest “Toxic Garbage”.