I accidentally clicked the spoiler thingy
You’re completely right. This guy is taking advantage of someone with seemingly no prior sexual experience and trying to mold him to fit his desires. He isn’t teaching him the fundamentals or basic etiquette of BDSM which is wrong. He’s abusing his power over him and that’s plain sick. I want to beat him up with a bat <3
Count me in
I was thinking the same thing about him not being able to look it up, I'd definitely bet on that "master" having spyware and stuff downloaded on his phone.
A contract per se is not needed, but an agreement between the two parties is a must. You need to know the hard and soft limits of your partner (it goes from both sides).
What the Dom is trying to do, is making the sub live as a slave 24/7. He basically controls (and i mean it generally) what he eats, dress, where they go, who they speak, how much they spend, etc...
They have a sexual relationship, not romantic, so the sub doesn't have to know anything about the Dom if they agreed to it.
Remember, the Dom has the control, but is the submissive who gives them that power.
The mc NOT knowing or having a Safeword is extremely concerning, because that is the first thing you do. That's your life insurance sort to speak.
Bdsm is not black and white, right or wrong. If it's consensual, legal and safe.
But yes, it triggered me when the uke says he didn't know he was a masochistic and his Dom helped him find out. It seems to me it was coerced and implanted into his mind when he was in sub space.
I hope the seme rescue him sooner than later. The Dom seems dangerous.
I agree. I hope the seme rescues the uke cause he seems like he is in a bad predicament.
I’m all for consensual BDSM when both parties actually understand what they are consenting to; the uke has clearly made some concerning comments in regards to his lack of knowledge about BDSM, and the only knowledge he actually receives is from his master who seems to have ill intent. I think the uke’s lack of understanding, information, and his impressionability puts him at more risk of being taken advantage of. The facts right now all lead to the master trying to take away the ability for his sub/slave to have any power in their dynamics/relationship which is definitely not cool.
Overall, Ugh. I want to set him on fire
I think the S guy (Master) is somewhat a creep. First, if it truly is a BDSM relationship then shouldn't there be a contract at first? You should inform the other party of what's about to come and establish the safe word. From what I saw, he didn't only do that but have also learned the private deets of the M's life while leaving the M to know nothing abt him. Also I noticed that when the M searched abt the safe word, it didn't show any results which probably means that the S might be gatekeeping the info. I think that it's not like BDSM but sort of like an abusive relationship. p.s. I haven't personally experienced BDSM so if I'm wrong feel free to correct me. HAHSHSHAHAHAH