Kink originating from childhood abuse?

Mr Tom a dildo lover May 19, 2021 3:39 am

Have you guys ever heard about the theory that we're attracted to people who resemble our parents? (I think the reasoning behind that has to do something with how parents are the first people we love..)

Anyways, I was wondering if kinks are similar because I think the reason I have a force feeding kink has something to do with how when I was younger my mom used to force me to take... things that may or may not have been legal lol. I'm actually starting to wonder if all of my awful kinks (such as noncon, manhandling, manipulation, dangerously possessive behavior, threats, forcefully confining one to a room, noncon drug use, etc. the list goes on D':) originate from my childhood experiences?

Or maybe my kinks for extreme things might be a result of being introduced to sex and drugs at a very young age (courtesy one very dead mother) or a result of being raised by a forgetful to the point of neglectful drug addicted mother who rapidly switched from spoiling me rotten and showering me with very physical affection to angrily telling me to practice swallowing water when I couldn't swallow a (mysterious, hopefully not illegal) pill to silently vomiting blood in the toilet as i sat next to her eating toilet paper. So now I think I crave someone who loves me so much they'd (tie me up) never abandon me, is physically dominant, manipulative in a sweet way, and generally just a very bad person overall who has no qualms about hurting me. Don't know why I want a bad person but I do know I'd really want to forgive them so long as they love me.

Sorry if this doesn't really make sense, I myself am struggling to make sense of what's going on in my head lol. But if anyone else has any thoughts or comments about this I'd love to hear it! (=・ω・=)

Responses
    neji May 19, 2021 3:46 am

    this was a very interesting read! i think your theory might be correct as I’ve encountered that as well. definitely something to think about

    imano May 19, 2021 3:48 am

    yes yes i really agree that childhood trauma, or anything related to childhood tbh, does contribute a lot to developing kinks. even being lightly exposed to those things at a young age (like simply just watching them) can make people develop them as they grow older, so ofc when you're exposed directly and physically (like those things you describe) you'll develop them as well. i hope this makes sense.

    imano May 19, 2021 3:49 am

    but again, kinks can be developed from many reasons as well (⌒▽⌒)

    chæs May 19, 2021 4:01 am

    i saw a research that proves that kinks are highly likely to be hereditary, and ur theory makes just as much sense ╥﹏╥

    Da fuck is this May 19, 2021 4:01 am

    Do you know it's actually proven that we have some of the same kinks as our parents but that theory is very interesting actually I really like to hear more about it so if you have any more tell me I'd love to hear it

    Ale May 19, 2021 4:04 am

    that would explain a lot (⊙…⊙ )

    Bea May 19, 2021 4:08 am
    Do you know it's actually proven that we have some of the same kinks as our parents but that theory is very interesting actually I really like to hear more about it so if you have any more tell me I'd love to h... Da fuck is this

    I refuse to believe that my parents have a pegging kink

    Ale May 19, 2021 4:14 am
    I refuse to believe that my parents have a pegging kink Bea

    LMAO

    Da fuck is this May 19, 2021 4:15 am
    I refuse to believe that my parents have a pegging kink Bea

    Im sorry the what? I have never heard of that one what is it?

    Da fuck is this May 19, 2021 4:16 am
    I refuse to believe that my parents have a pegging kink Bea

    But they might lol