Any advice, answer my question

「あきこやまざき」 May 14, 2021 3:21 pm

So i have boyfriend we been dating 2 weeks and the other day he asked me that "Can u send nudes of yours" and i was shock and feel disgusting at the same time. He reply to me quickly and said im sorry if that feel uncomfy to u, im just horny today so i was about to reply him that go watch porn and masturbate but i didnt reply that....

And now i was planning break up with him because of the disgusting request but i feel hesitate to break up with him becuz he's a good guy...

So pls guys give me advice

Responses
    BomHae May 14, 2021 3:23 pm

    If I was in your position, I will give him a chance since you are dating, it is a mistake on his part but I will give him a 2nd chance as long as it is not cheating

    BomHae May 14, 2021 3:25 pm
    If I was in your position, I will give him a chance since you are dating, it is a mistake on his part but I will give him a 2nd chance as long as it is not cheating BomHae

    You need to break up with him if he was really pushy, but he said sorry and I dont know if he will learn from his mistake, but try to give him a chance and explain to him his mistake.

    GRANDMOTHER May 14, 2021 3:25 pm

    if it was me and we r still 2 weeks.. i dont think i'll send nudes lol

    CHEWLIE95 May 14, 2021 3:29 pm

    Maybe don't do rush things to a break up... A talk would be a good thing to do first than breaking up... It's a good thing you already know this side of him than later. Say it directly to him that you don't feel comfortable with that kind of topic, then decide. If he refuse, break up... He needs to be understanding for you to be in a good and healthy relationship. Even I would feel not okay with that, but being in a relationship requires communication so please talk things over first, that's all

    「あきこやまざき」 May 14, 2021 3:29 pm
    You need to break up with him if he was really pushy, but he said sorry and I dont know if he will learn from his mistake, but try to give him a chance and explain to him his mistake. BomHae

    Well he's pushy when it comes sending pics of my face and i dont like it cuz i dont like taking selfies

    「あきこやまざき」 May 14, 2021 3:30 pm

    Thank u for the big advice

    Haru May 14, 2021 3:33 pm

    I would be cautious. The fact it’s only been 2 weeks and he asked you that is a big red flag for me. NEVER send anyone nudes no matter what. Even if they seem trustworthy, you never know if they leak it to their friends and their friends leak it to others. Honestly, it doesn’t seem like he’s in the relationship with the right mindset. You need to let him know this is not okay, it seems like he views you for his sexual outlet, and shut up be a man and find porn somewhere else. And honestly, if you can’t get over this incident (i prob won’t be able to) I would break up with him bc there are plenty of other fish in the sea. Also, I would like to reiterate, just because people can be good friends/people you know doesn’t mean they are good relationship material. Dating and being nice to people are not the same thing. Good luck! You need to set some clear boundaries that this cannot happen again or else you’re done and if he can’t respect that, dump him. You are not and will not be a sexual outlet for a guy.

    MrBeast May 14, 2021 3:33 pm
    You need to break up with him if he was really pushy, but he said sorry and I dont know if he will learn from his mistake, but try to give him a chance and explain to him his mistake. BomHae

    But- he said “i’m sorry if that made you feel uncomfortable, i’m just horny” so technically it’s not a mistake he was actually just horny.

    BomHae May 14, 2021 3:35 pm
    Well he's pushy when it comes sending pics of my face and i dont like it cuz i dont like taking selfies 「あきこやまざき」

    Is he still pushy after apologizing to you? or did he stop?
    I dont fully know the situation you where in, but what [CHEWLIE95] said is a better option.

    CHEWLIE95 May 14, 2021 3:36 pm
    Well he's pushy when it comes sending pics of my face and i dont like it cuz i dont like taking selfies 「あきこやまざき」

    Then he needs to fix that... I also don't like pushy guys. I am my own person and you as my boyfriend should respect my decision of not wanting to take pictures..

    P. S. Taking pictures of myself is like to look at my face just for the sake of wanting to have pictures inside my gallery

    You are only starting now and if you don't find a solution to your problem, it might cause a problem if you keep it going

    Haru May 14, 2021 3:37 pm
    Well he's pushy when it comes sending pics of my face and i dont like it cuz i dont like taking selfies 「あきこやまざき」

    Let him know. Tell him to stop doing that bc you don’t like it. A real decent human being should respect your wishes. If he doesn’t then he isn’t respectful of you or your boundaries. It could lead to something more dangerous

    BomHae May 14, 2021 3:37 pm
    But- he said “i’m sorry if that made you feel uncomfortable, i’m just horny” so technically it’s not a mistake he was actually just horny. MrBeast

    He said sorry because he knew he was wrong, so for me it was his fault or mistake. (Im not really good at expressing my opinion through different words that can suit the statement, so sorry for my grammar)

    Haru May 14, 2021 3:39 pm
    He said sorry because he knew he was wrong, so for me it was his fault or mistake. (Im not really good at expressing my opinion through different words that can suit the statement, so sorry for my grammar) BomHae

    I agree with BomHae here. Being horny does not justify asking to send nudes. It is a mistake and “horny” should not be an excuse

    「あきこやまざき」 May 14, 2021 3:49 pm
    Is he still pushy after apologizing to you? or did he stop?I dont fully know the situation you where in, but what [CHEWLIE95] said is a better option. BomHae

    Well still kimda pushy

    BomHae May 14, 2021 4:15 pm
    Well still kimda pushy 「あきこやまざき」

    [Red Flag]

    Im not the one who can decide if you break up or not, but last question is did you already tell to him that you are uncomfortable about his demand?

    1.) If you already said that you dont like it, but he is still pushy, then I guess I will think thoroughly in breaking up (If I was in your position)

    2.) If you dont said you are uncomfortable, then try to communicate (If I was in your position)

    I dont fully know your situation and Im not you, so please keep in mind that you need to "thoroughly" think about breaking up.

    「あきこやまざき」 May 15, 2021 12:03 am
    [Red Flag]Im not the one who can decide if you break up or not, but last question is did you already tell to him that you are uncomfortable about his demand?1.) If you already said that you dont like it, but he... BomHae

    Yes i did tell him once and he only say sorry to me

    BomHae May 15, 2021 5:20 am
    Yes i did tell him once and he only say sorry to me 「あきこやまざき」

    Im not one who can decide about your relationship, either you give him a chance or break up with him. Just remember to think the best option and hopefully you wont regret it.

    BomHae May 15, 2021 5:25 am
    Yes i did tell him once and he only say sorry to me 「あきこやまざき」

    But if Im in your position and he is still pushy after I communicated, I will try to tell him that we need to break-up, relationship is not just about being horny, it is so stupid to ask for someone's nude pic, when you are only two weeks and you didnt fully know things about him.

    Tell him that he is stupid, if he is horny, he dont need a relationship, but instead a fuck buddy, relationship is establish for developing one another, relationship are not establish just to seek sexual pleasure.

    (Well this is if im on your position)

    「あきこやまざき」 May 15, 2021 5:53 am
    But if Im in your position and he is still pushy after I communicated, I will try to tell him that we need to break-up, relationship is not just about being horny, it is so stupid to ask for someone's nude pic,... BomHae

    Thank u very much ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶

    MrBeast May 15, 2021 1:25 pm
    But if Im in your position and he is still pushy after I communicated, I will try to tell him that we need to break-up, relationship is not just about being horny, it is so stupid to ask for someone's nude pic,... BomHae

    OMG! THIS! THIS IS VERY WELL SAID(๑•ㅂ•)و✧