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same. i have been trying my best for the past years and I did not heard a single word of them asking me if I'm doing okay, if I'm tired. They don't even acknowledge my achievements ╮(￣▽￣)╭

I'm sorry to hear that you're going through the same thing :(
Bad news: they will never change (︶︿︶)＝凸
The only thing you can do is to become independent and leave

Same and this causes me to seek validation from my mom but at the same time don't want to. I feel happy when someone praises me but I will try my best not to look too excited. They mean this as good for us but at the same time, we’re not the same people. My mom won't understand so I will keep this to myself, but I keep self-loving myself cause that's the most important thing. (≧∀≦)

righttt. I tried so hard for everything but it feels like it still keeps getting invalidated which makes me lessen my fighting mood. I tend to not work hard sometimes since I keep on feeling down sigh.... :((( I just wanted them to accept me for my own abilities but they keep on wanting to push their fucked up perfect child dream :))

SAMEEEE. Like I want to pour out my stress in them but decides to keep it myself since I know I will not receive any comfort :((

It's a serious issue. As you said they have that perfect child in mind and they want you to be like that and reach what they couldn't themselves. It used to bother me so much, that's how my childhood and teen years passed while I didn't enjoy a single day of it. I gave up the moment I showed them my name in honor students list and they didn't even blink, like I did what I was supposed to do that there's no need for them to praise me or something. I still work hard cuz if I don't, I need to get into arguments which will break me more, but it's been a while that I don't inform them about whatever I achieve cuz I know what would their reaction be. (－.－)

Same! That's why I'm super intense and cautious when it comes to accepting a relationship cuz I know a little praise might make me over-trust the person and close my eyes to all the red flags (〜￣△￣)〜

If my parents say its right then its right. If its wrong then its wrong. If i voice out my own opinion, im wrong. If i question them, im wrong. If i think differently from them, im wrong. If i try to be my own person, im wrong. I opened up to my dad that i wanted to at least be praised for once and then he went on and on about all the wrong things i did in life and just made me cry amd feel so utterly ugly, incompetent and unwanted. So i long gave up on getting praised, just try and live with it i guess.*sigh

Omg same here. I've never had the chance to enjoy myself when I achieve something cuz they just bring up things that I failed to achieve! I used to cry constantly over this, I even attempted suicide once cuz you know you just feel tired at some point. Well, I was saved by someone but after that I just became numb! I still feel pressured but no longer care about the fact that I can't satisfy them, if that makes sense? I just live like a robot and do as I'm told, I don't fight against them or cry constantly for them to see how hard I'm working and how bad they're treating me. At the end they want this for us, they want us to reach the best, but their methods suck and I'm soooo happy I'm the only child cuz hell I didn't want someone else in family go through the same thing as I'm going through. Try to ignore even though it's hard, at the end you can have your own life one day without waiting for their approval or praises. (づ￣ ³￣)づ

(⊙…⊙ ) ikr

I receive comfort but at a random time when I didn't need it. (╯°Д °)╯╧╧