you've got a non stereotipical female lead in:
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/tonari_no_kaibutsu_kun/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/high_school_debut/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/houkago_x_ponytail/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/nodame_cantabile/ (i love her^^!)
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/hana_ni_arashi/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/gokusen/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/sora_log/ (very nice story)
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/the_princes_cactus/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/pochamani/
or some shoujos from my non-yaoi favs list :
http://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/41583/ (⌒▽⌒)
There are many that are good
well now i can only remember some so here:
red river
saver
red lion
gakuen alice
beauty pop
skip beat
most of hwang miri's works
nah i get you i really hate the damsel in distress type like they dont do anything to help and let the guy or her friends do all the work.
I don't really read shoujo because the girl usually is set out to have like a "dumb" way of thinking is there any shoujo recommendations that had a protagonist with a little more control? (personally i love medaka-box)