Oohhh :/ if they’re coming to you about their problems it’s because you’re a very trustful and reliable person but if they “toss” you aside right after- I’m sorry but fuck them, they honestly don’t deserve you,, people like them are so inenial, if I were you I wouldn’t want to be treated like that :(
In my personal opinion, is that really a bad thing? Without friends, you can focus on yourself. I know it sucks sometimes, I've been in your shoes. Perhaps I don't have any close friends. However, I realized don't need to be intimate friends with someone to hangout and have fun in life. I've focused on my relationship with my family and my personal hobbies.
Deep relationships take time. Maybe talking to your friends on a deeper level or hanging out with them is what it takes. Ask them to hangout! If they are unwilling though, you can stay quick friends. Not being deep friends is not necessarily a bad thing either.
I know this sounds daunting, but in all honesty you can make some new friends as well! You aren't obligated to hang out only with them. Join a club (mock trial, debate, theater, sporty, etc). It's easy to make fast friends. Relationships are quick to form.
I don't think you are a boring person. In this world of 7 billion people, you are bound to find people around you who think you are amazing and funny. I know I'm a stranger, but if you need anything I can always lend a ear.
It may seem like I'm a bit too lenient, but I haven't met the people you are talking about before
I've met people who've only talked to me only to bitch about other people. After deeper investigation, they had toxic behavior. If they have the behavior above I would distance myself, but I wouldn't completely ghost them.
However, I've met people who also bitched about other people. Were they bad people? No! They simply did not know what to talk about except that.
I think you should make your decision on a gut feeling. Take what I say with a grain of salt though, I can be too pacifistic sometimes.
I only have two friends and idk if they think of me as a friend too. They both have their circle of friends, indeed they have a lot of friends. And they are just talking to me whenever they have a problem with their friends. I am a boring person ig.