Right after my milk let down

Zoey Zoey Zoey April 19, 2016 10:05 am

My boobs got do big and tight my baby couldn't get her mouth to latch properly and I felt like my breasts were going to literally explode. Babies don't just put your nipple in their mouth but your areola as well, but since my breasts were like two overfilled beach balls with tiny nipples sticking off she couldnot latch on properly. It was fucking miserable. I called my sister who'd had her 2nd baby four months before me and who ran a group dedicated to natural childbirth and breastfeeding and she showed me how to use a breast pump to drain off enough milk that my baby could suckle properly. The relief was amazing. I was super lucky bc I just couldn't figure out how to get it to work and I imagine it's why a lot of women give up-especially considering in America breastfeeding is considered almost taboo in some places. Which is fucking nuts bc breasts purpose is to feed babies-but our puritanical society has so sexualized the breast that some ppl can't stop seeing them as inherently sexual. Somehow I can't talk about breastfeeding in any context without going on a rant about the absurd way breastfeeding is seen in the US. I loved nursing.

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    CrazyOtaku 101 April 20, 2016 11:23 pm

    Thank you. I'll keep that in mind if I ever have children. I learned something new.

    Vamplady019 April 29, 2016 11:39 am

    I had something similar happened to me with my first Child. I was producing so much breastmilk that i went from cup C to almost double D. It was extremely painful, and even though my baby ate a lot I was suffering still because there was still a lot of breastmilk. So, my husband had to help me like Erwin helped Levi because The stupid breast pump was so painful.

    Moustache May 8, 2016 12:34 pm

    I did not know that some part of the US considers breastfeeding as a taboo topic. This is my opinion but I find it sad, breasts first purpose is to feed our babies so it is a natural act. And pain aside, it should be a moment of bliss for a mother.
    Yes breasts are also a sexy body part but well if we go on this way, many part of our body can be use in a sexy way.

    Zoey Zoey Zoey May 21, 2016 8:19 am
    I had something similar happened to me with my first Child. I was producing so much breastmilk that i went from cup C to almost double D. It was extremely painful, and even though my baby ate a lot I was suffe... Vamplady019

    Awesome husband. You defiantly got lucky. I loved my "milk guns" but the first time I sprayed my boyfriend he almaot hit me. Formula fed guy. Funnily enough my breast milk changed from bring gross to erotic to him. He was a total Catholic raised repressed perv. First time I let him come on my face he giddily expressed how much he fucking loved me. First time I realized that makes were not the complicated aliens I thought they were.

    Zoey Zoey Zoey May 21, 2016 8:30 am
    I did not know that some part of the US considers breastfeeding as a taboo topic. This is my opinion but I find it sad, breasts first purpose is to feed our babies so it is a natural act. And pain aside, it sho... Moustache

    I know it's so fucked up. Women here are routinely told to cover up when nursing or to go in the bathroom. I'm like do you want to eat in a room that smells like ass? Then don't ask my baby to. I've been to nurse ins at malls and coffee shops after a mom is harassed. Formula is bad environmently, financially and bad for the baby. Formula fed baby's are sicker and have more allergies but worst their IQ's are on a garage 11 points lower then breastfed babies. They're also prone to obesity as adults. Breastfeeding is beneficial to the mother as well. It helps her lose weight and bond with her baby. Breastfed babies sleep better and it helps reduce postpartum depression and anxiety. The world health organization says two years min and early humans normally used to supplement their kids with breast milk till 5-6. It's super beneficial for young children. Things are slowly changing but not fast enough. We had a Dutch ambassadors wife harassed about nursing her child and they were horrified with America

    Vamplady019 May 21, 2016 9:04 am
    Awesome husband. You defiantly got lucky. I loved my "milk guns" but the first time I sprayed my boyfriend he almaot hit me. Formula fed guy. Funnily enough my breast milk changed from bring gross to erotic to ... Zoey Zoey Zoey

    The first time I sprayed my husband by accident he laughed at me! It wasn't because of the fact that it was on his face, but because i was so mortified and embarrased my face was very red! At first he didn't like helping me cuz it was only "for the baby" and it didn't taste right. At that time I used to eta a lot of healthy food because of some health issues I had while pregnant, but later on he really like it cuz I eat more sweet things. He's such a weirdo.

    Zoey Zoey Zoey May 22, 2016 6:22 am
    The first time I sprayed my husband by accident he laughed at me! It wasn't because of the fact that it was on his face, but because i was so mortified and embarrased my face was very red! At first he didn't li... Vamplady019

    He sounds great. When I was little my mom chased us around spraying is with her milk. She was super hippie back then. Had my brother with a midwife in the living room and we had moms who'd nurse each others babies. babies are great.

    Usako December 23, 2017 1:47 am
    I did not know that some part of the US considers breastfeeding as a taboo topic. This is my opinion but I find it sad, breasts first purpose is to feed our babies so it is a natural act. And pain aside, it sho... Moustache

    Being from the US my entire life, I have never heard it being taboo. Our local maternity ward pushes breast feeding first and foremost. I know of companies in this area that have created a special place for breast feeding mothers during work hours. (In August of this year) I've even helped create a space for a mother who wanted some feeding privacy.

    Zoey Zoey Zoey January 12, 2018 8:53 am
    Being from the US my entire life, I have never heard it being taboo. Our local maternity ward pushes breast feeding first and foremost. I know of companies in this area that have created a special place for bre... Usako

    Unfortunately you’re experience isn’t what many moms have had in America. My community has had to have nurse ins at several stores to protest a mom being kicked out after being told to go to the restroom to nurse and refusing. Also a Norwegian diplomats wife was harassed at a restaurant for nursing her newborn baby a few years ago and remarked how backwards America was in comparison to Europe. Maybe taboo isn’t the right word but it’s not treated like it should be and there are places/communities where it is taboo to nurse in public. There’s always stories of nursing moms being harassed and groups like la Leché league having doing nurse ins to protest. Only a handful of states have laws that actually protect nursing mothers fully. Growing up I was even told by a male teacher how women shouldn’t breastfeeding without covering up. Also Facebook routinely has flagged nursing pictures and put mom’s who continue to put up nursing photos in Facebook jail. It’s why I pretty much quit FB a few years back. You’re lucky you’ve never experienced this discrimination but it’s very real for many women and I think goes back to a handful of uniquely American issues. One the puritanical thread that runs through many parts of our country and an over sexualizaion of the breast. I never experienced the worst of it with my daughter like some of the moms I knew or heard of but I did get a lot of side eye. Just going to my daughters fathers house and having my daughter decide she wanted milk in the living room had my ex’s mom asking if I wanted to go upstairs- for like the 10th time. I didn’t want to disrespect them in their hous but I didn’t feel like being subjected to the upstairs with nothing to do and no one to talk to just bc they were uncomfortable. I was once even told I shouldn’t be nursing my toddler in a pretzel shop bc it might ruin ppl’s appetite even though she was under my shirt. My ex who was with me just about ran me out of there bc he was so embarrassed. He hated being with me when I nursed in public. There are definitely havens of progressiveness where you can nurse with little fear of harassment but a lot of the country isn’t like that. Even in those areas there is the occasional asshole who will say something. America has a low rate of nursing for the developed world and American mothers don’t nurse as long. I know I was given a lot of shit for nursing over a year. Even if you look at the symbols on commercial cards and other pregnancy/birth accoutrement dealing with pregnancy and new mothers, it’s all baby pins and bottles. There was a nursing my boom in the 70’s (after decades of nursing on the decline bc it was considered something only the lower class did bc they couldn’t afford formula) but then a contraction. A new boom has been going on with women fighting to change the laws to gain protections but it’s still nothing like European countries. Many poor women still formula feed bc they see nursing as something that makes you look poor. I was very poor when I left my bf when my baby was an infant and signed up for wic. Nursing mothers were given vouchers for milk, cheese, beans, etc so they could be healthy to nurse their child. But then they had to cut my wic bc so many mothers were choosing formula which is so crazy expensive that they couldn’t afford to keep offering nursing mothers a full year of wic for them. It was changed to 6 mos then I was offered formula vouchers which I declined. My sister until recently was involved in advocacy surrounding midwifery and nursing with groups like la leche league and groups that worked on behalf of midwives. The stats and the stories all show a systemic lack of respect for both in America that although has improved in the last decade aren’t where they should be.