I am sorry about this but maybe it's better if you forget it all.
you do it with (maybe half) your own will.
uwaaa, this is dangerous topic, and this is why I afraid with my younger sister stay night at someone else's house.
but what should I say? you still underage and he was 40 years old, that was wrong. the game, the fact you getting drunk, the fact his father allow you & his daughter to getting drunk, asked you to come and do it. that was .all. wrong,
maybe I sound as if innocent of what, but in my country that 's not right thing.
or is this better if you tell someone who older / responsible than you? or not? I don't know what I should say,
thanks for replying. and yeah u really should be afraid for your sister, there really are this kind of guys who will take advantage of girls... >.< and no drinking is not allowed for underaged in my country either, he just gave us beer and we drank it for fun...ughh my life is a mess xcc...
First of all, don't drink till ur of age. Lots of problems
happens like that.When u drink(at legal age of course) don't drink too much when guys are around.
Second, though I didn't have the same experience I know what it feels like to avoid someone because of something shameful I did. Though ur situation was worst.
Tell your friend. If you really think she's your friend, like your true best friend. Tell her. Cause if you tell her and she understands she could protect you from that situation happening again.
For me, If that ever happened to me I wouldn't tell anyone but if I ever had a best friend (someone I can really relay on) I would try really hard to tell her/him the situation. Living with that without letting it out will hurt you.
idk what to say but...
don't blame yourself, regardless what you did, he is still at fault. he's a adult and you're a minor (and you were in no condition to give consent).
to start, allowing underage drinking is really messed up.
...maybe you should try to forget (?)
sorry. i wish i could help you...
You are a child! You were abused. Report it. Who is to say he hasn't done it before? You will not ruin their relationship. It's already ruined if he chose to do that. That man is a predator. In no way was it your fault. He probably provided the alcohol for that very reason.
Yup! Though what I said before in my comment to at least tell u r friend But F--- it just tell the police. If u don't tell anyone then who knows there could be others.
You were under the influence of alcohol and not able to properly give consent, that counts as rape. I'm so sorry you had to experience that, and i absolutely think that you should report it.
it doesn't matter if he was drunk, you didn't give consent so it was rape. also you are underaged so he raped a minor which would give him a lot of time in jail. Nothing is your fault. honestly he is a grown man and shouldn't have EVER thought about sleeping with a young child. you were drunk and helpless IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT. I'm so sorry this happened to you, you don't deserve it. You should report it if you feel comfortable. Or talk to a therapist if u have to. But don't do anything you don't want to do. it takes time to heal. I hope you feel better <3
Dude thats rape, you have to report it. Dont let him do it to another victim.
Everybody has already said what I would say. It does make me wonder if he has done stuff to your friend. People who prey on underage youngsters don't just decide to do it in one night. Sometimes it's because it's something they've already done. I could be wrong about him because I'm no expert, but the whole situation seems fishy to me.( because of him not you)
first, thank u all for replying me, youve made me more certain about this situation, and ive realized that what happened wasnt entirely my fault, thank u for your support and kind words <3
No thanks are necessary, just be more careful with yourself and treasure yourself more. This was a really harsh learning experience for you and it will be difficult to get over it so please talk to someone.
I'll give you a hug *a big bear hug* (づ￣ ³￣)づ
The man is a predator. Not only did he take advantage of you while you were drunk, he actively played a part in getting you that way. For all you know, he could have been planning it from the start; at the very least, that's what his actions lead me to believe. But you absolutely need to let someone know. The fact that he involved your friend in the early part of this already gives me cause for alarm, and suggests that, even if you were the first, you probably won't be the last.
I can't imagine how difficult it must be to be in this situation, but you have to tell somebody for your own piece of mind and to prevent another girl from having to deal with this as well. And use this as a warning for the future. I won't say to stay away from alcohol because part of being a teenager is doing seeimingly harmless things you probably shouldn't with your friends. That stupidity/immaturity is a part of growing up, after all. BUT...be very very wary of any adult who encourages or tries to join in on that behavior. No proper adult should want to party with children.
sorry this is gonna be a long story. if somebody have had samekind of situation, feel free to send me a message, i feel very alone and scared right now. dont read this if youre easily triggered or child.
so i was sleepover in my bestfriends house, her stepfather was home too, but her mother wasnt. well, we got like really drunk, girls niht at home, and started to drunken dance. i have daddy issues, so i kinda wanted to have my friend's dad to pay attention to me while i danced. well soon things got really akward. my friends stepdad challenged us to play "dare" with him. he is like 40 yo(im 15yo). cos we been drinking, we agreed to play it. he challenged us to remove clothes, first like socks, than shorts, then tops, and finally, underwears, or bra or tops. it was really weird, during that time he also was kinda harassing us, like slapping our asses, pulling our bra, that kind of stuff. cos i was drunk, i was sitting there without my bra, but still wearing my under wear. i really didnt care, but if id have to choose again without being drunk, i wouldnt do that.(i really become like whole different person while im druk, usually im shy)
soon after that we went to sleep, i was sleeping alone on sofa, cos im bi and i was drunk and i was scared that id kiss my friend cos i have crush on her.(i dont wanna ruin our friendship so i wont tell her) i wish so much that i wouldnt go sleep to that sofa, i wish i would have went sleep with my friend...soon my friends stepdad came to me, held my hand and asked me to go to his bedroom with him. fuck, i regret it so much , i really didnt think anything, i just went with him.when we got to his bedroom,he pulled his pants down, he was erect. he asked me to suck him off. i dont know if i wanted it, i was so drunk. soon he asked me to get on top of him, and rub myself against his dick. he said he wouldnt put it in, but he did. it hurted so much, and i started to cry. after a while, i passed out because of alchohol. i remember waking up middle of night and he was squeezing my boobs, and fingering me, but i was too tired to do anything. i woke up at morning, went to shover and woke my friend up, like nothing had happened. after that i havent been in my friends house, i cant face her stepdad after that. my friend is suspicous, and thinks that i hate her.
so is this rape, he was drunk, i was drunk, im underage, and i dont now if i wanted to have sex with him then, but if i d get to choose again, i wouldnt do it. still, i kinda did it on my free will, i didnt say no, and i blowed him.this is really troublesome, i cant tell anyone,i dont wanna break their family...his wife would be mad at me, i think she would blame it on me. im so confused and my self-esteem is so low nowadays, i dont speak much, im scared of yelling men (cos my friends stepdad yells a lot) which is a problem at school cos teachers yell a lot..i really cant tell anyone, cos i dont ever wanna see him again.... i hope so much that this would never have happened …