http://www.mangago.zone/thing/about/430034/
This should answer your questions. You are basically sexualizing a character and assigning him sexual position based on his looks.
Simply put: Over interest in something as well as sexualization of a certain group of individuals. In your case: Queer men.
Fetishization doesn't have to be as blatant as masturbating to BLs, or even
those "I want to be a gay man" or "I want to be the 'uke' so bad"
we hear all too often within this community. But it can be as subtle as this
"YAY I LOVE GAY GUYS! PLEASE KISS!" that I've been told times and times again. Lurking at and enjoying the sight of MLM love. That's fetishization.
It's something foreign that makes them feel a way that straight content doesn't or only does so in extremely minimized amounts. This, is also a form of fetishization. You seek out a thrill out of looking at what is "forbidden". Another side to it would be seeing two men holding hands is some kind of act for them to get off to and lurk at. Again, it's a "forbidden love", a "thrill". It wouldn't even matter to them if said two men weren't even gay, they'll just want them to bone anyway. Fetishization comes in many aspects, and simplifying it to masturbating for one's own convenience is just bigoted.
"I read too much Yaoi", "He is such a lovely uke", all of those expressions being used yet you failing to see a problem there only goes to show that you are extremely uneducated on real MLM issues, as well as what using such terms implies and consumption of such works without proper education only means one thing: ignorant fetishist.
That's kinda the point. Blindingly producing Art without taking awareness of its weight is not only rash but dangerous.
The problem is not women reading BL in it of itself. The problem is that said women who do so only do it out of this "thrill" and not only that, but encourage and promote the toxicity within the BL genre as well as supporting preconceived and dangerous ideas that are being spread about around the genre by those, which, in turn, washes off onto real MLM relationships and people. Consciously or not. There wouldn't be anything wrong with straight people writing about MLM love if, and only if these people were let their readers know that they aren't MLM themselves, as well as make an effort not to romanticize toxic content and tropes and EDUCATE themselves on proper MLM issues and dynamics. One must remain aware of what they are writing, as well as its potential consequences and the weight it carries.
Okay then you have to educate all yaoi, shoai, DJ authors and readers. Please don't go to mangago if you want to call out or 'educate' someone based on your 'knowledge' if you have sooo much time to typing that much words and commenting on someone you don't know on mangago please use your free time to make a journal or article regarding this matters maybe then someone will be really 'educated' by you ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭
I'm gonna end this discussion but go on if you all want to continue this discussion. And oh i don't feel 'educated' at all btw
It's quite funny to me that your only argument in response to this is "well then don't do that here then", "please use your free time to make a journal or article regarding this matters maybe then someone will be really 'educated' by you" This just goes to show that you have nothing to say in your defense. And as such, are relying on backing off and "playing it cool" to save face.
Matter of fact is that you undeniably do fetishize MLM, you just don't like that we're calling you out for it.
"if you have sooo much time to typing that much words and commenting on someone you don't know on mangago" Are you 12? Can't you find a more concise argument than "boo hoo I'm just a stranger on mangago" --Freedom of speech is not freedom of consequences love. It doesn't matter whether we are cousins or strangers. Be we on Mangago, Youtube or even on the New York Times. If you can't stand criticism and being called out on toxic behavior then don't be toxic in the first place.
To go back on this gorgeous piece of nonsense right here: "please use your free time to make a journal or article regarding this matters maybe then someone will be really 'educated' by you" --Cute. You see love, the real world doesn't work like this. Us, MLM have to all too often rely on resources such as illegal reading sites, reddit, youtube or even blogs to just reach a few people. If it were as easy as "writing out a journal article", then we would gladly do it. Do you know why we can't? HOMOPHOBIA. Whenever we attempt to speak up in our defense, bigoted people such as yourself will constantly try to silence us and look down on our issues. It's extremely hard to even get recognition in the first place. So to be even publicized is a whole other matter.
"I'm gonna end this discussion but go on if you all want to continue this discussion. And oh i don't feel 'educated' at all btw" --Guess you can't read then.
Bruh i read too much yaoi so when i see gallahan i immediately fall for him and thinking he is a lovely uke