He didn't "blame" him, he was just playing with it. Gender is also something trans people (or intersex people) don't need to disclose until they feel comfortable, trans and intersex people are victims of a lot of hate crimes, so revealing the gender to someone they've just met is not possible unless we live in an ideal world.
Also, she (girl Hibiki) was very adamant on having sex but he agreed, it's not like she raped him, he was just very much surprised.
I get what you mean but are they really trans or intersex - to be fair I don’t know what intersex means? I mean to say this situation seems kinda different and even though I’d understand if hibikl was uncomfortable telling him, I still just didn’t like how it felt when they like dragged him off to suddenly have sex. I haven’t read it in a while, so correct me if I’m wrong, but didn’t hibiki know they were going to meet again the next day? (So he would have found out anyway) Either way it just kinda felt to me like they were trying to guilt trip/ trap him into sort of feeling like he had to “take responsibility” for the relations they’d had, like he had to keep dating him now, but I get that he was probably just teasing him, I always take little stuff like this in mangas way too seriously
Plus from what I remember I actually wrote this right after reading the part I talked about when hiroto/hibiki got angry at the guy after he told them to not be alone with the other guy or something like that and that was the part I was most annoyed with, I just figured if I was making a topic I might as well write about everything
if i may interject. their sex is important because the weight of being able to have a male body is just as important to their partner. Because, in Hiroto's shoes, he felt deceived which is apparent when he realized it the next time they met. and it's not just "surprise". In this story, even if it is smut, Hibiki had the responsibility to come clean especially because they are in a "contractual" or arranged meeting. If they are going to date Hiroto, it means having Hiroto know what he's getting himself into.
And yeah, for those theyve just met, they don't need to. but if they enter a "dating" relationshup, it's a different story. the same can be told to a transgender or intersex when they do not let their partners know before having sex. it's less pressure and risk than when they actually start doing it but their partner didn't know. that would create more hate crime because it gives the impression of being "deceived".
also, being a transgender or intersex is an identity which shouldn't be shamed any longer. that's why we have to confront problems which is central to their identity. it may sound insensitive to transgenders or intersex people but it's only right that their partner knows their identity because just like them having their preferences and sexual identity, heterosexuals or those who do not prefer transgender or intersex partners are just as valid.
I do like it... but I hate the start when hibiki basically pressured hiroto into having sex straight away without telling him about the gender switch which is SUPER IMPORTANT information to tell a prospective date, and then proceeds to blame him afterwards!! That’s so manipulative! （＾_＾）also that coworker guy- hibiki clearly knows that he’s interested but then gets mad at him for worrying about him/her sleeping in front of him when he called hIM BEFORE AND SAID HE COULDNT CONTROL HIMSELF!! This gets so annoying!! ＼＼٩(๑`^´๑)۶//／／ (I’ve only read up to that part tho I don’t know if it gets better later)