This is why I said that he is not right. I don't think that is right treating people like this but for me personally because my boyfriend has experienced abuse by his relationship some years ago I can understand and accept something like this. I have also be under a trauma it was not a serious as this so I don't excuse myself. But I think that when it comes to a trauma that was caused by abuse the behaviour of the person should be easier acceptable. My boyfriend after getting abused by his old relationship (something similar to this manga, not as bad tho) was terrified by some things. Some times when I was even trying to get something that it was close to him the first months would be terrified, from just running away to start screaming and crying about it. It was very bad for me too, but I could accept it, I could understand that he had a trauma on some things (like fast movement, loud voice, really small rooms/places etc.) so I tried my best to stop thinking about his behaviour that was caused by a trauma and tried to help him with that. I know that the girl in this manga really loves him and we can see it through to how much she cares about him and that it can be very painful to see your partner like this but please, understand that the person that has the trauma is not that easy to get over it. Especially a trauma caused by abuse, I think that this is one of the worst traumas that someone can have and I always feel sad when I hear that someone went through this. Not because "they got abused" but because I know how they may feel, what thoughts they may have and how bad and painful it's to get over this. I won't keep doing this conversation, you do you. Anyone has their own opinions. I shared mine and my story, I don't think that I have anymore to say. Sorry for my long ass comment again I just hate talking and judging someone that is in such a situation. It kinda hurts.
Also one more thing I wrote my answer on another comment (the long one) but if you see carefully he is not avoiding her for punishing her, also he is not doing this for a "stupid blog" but his trauma got triggered because this blog was the same that his old partner was uploading all his abusive pics.
If yall are so upset because he is somehow "toxic", stop reading. He has a hard time opening up, would you blame him? Like i already said on another post, he isn't a representation of how YOU handle trauma, itd a different representation. Im not blaming anyone, itd neither of their faults, aren't yall the ones calling him toxic?
You misunderstood the story. The blog was NOT the same whatsoever. It was just A blog. So yes he was avoiding her intentionally because he was triggered. It was still his responsibility to confront her once he had calmed down, explain why he was triggered, and apologize for being so shitty of a person that he told Daisy So-Dam made his trauma worse by having a blog she had before they even met.
I mean wow it's almost like we have the ability to call fictional characters out when they act shitty and still enjoy the drama *gasp* shocking I know.
Whatever, I thought it was the same blog, sorry if it's not the same but I explained my thoughts on the other comment, I won't repeat it again, there is no reason for this conversation, now it's not what if fact but our opinions and your opinion if I'm right(don't know what experience you have with this kind of thing) is that his trauma does not excuse the thing that his shitty when my opinion by experience by being in a relationship with a partner that has a trauma by an abusive relationship is that I think that every kind of behaviour after his trauma getting triggered should be forgotten. The trigger is not something that happens once like a panic attack and then it goes away, is something that can last a lot of hours and days, so no, I think that he stills under the trauma trigger without being able to think right. As I said before I don't continue this conversation, it's all up to you guys
Also sorry for all these typos, it's really late and I'm kinda drunk, not in a position to write like a human, as I read my comment it's more like a dog tapping on the screen, but whatever, hope you understood what I mean
I do understand you, yeah. I know what a trigger and trauma are personally, but hearing the explanation, reading her blog and deciding to be with her again as if nothing happened, he's no longer triggered and having a trauma response. To be fair he could still apologize and I hope he does I'd love to see them communicate. (She's apologized every time she does wrong, doesn't take away the wrong, but it validates and acknowledges the other person's pain). Here I am hoping fictional characters can be healthy though lol Have a good night friend!
We are not judging, we get that he was traumatized and we don't excuse any of the dom's action she did wrong too she shouldn't have listened to Stanger's advice on the internet, she shouldn't even have asked. every situation is different. And she should have discussed what she was about to do with the sub beforehand. but what we are saying is the scene where he run away after looking at the blog was over dramatic, and really not necessarily of him.
I feel like having a traumatized partner is hard enough, keeping up with him and always being conscious not to trigger him, to be understanding, supporting.... . is hard work. And I respect you for doing that with your partner because not a lot of people can deal with that and personally I don't think I can so I think your partner is lucky enough to have you and that is the same for the sub and he should cherish you and treat you nicely.
That all we wanted to say.
This conversation was entertaining hope yall stay safe
Yeah, tbh I think that he should apologise, I still think that he is wrong so we just hope that they will end together very very happy (I can't believe that I had a whole conversation about fictional characters but WHY NOT
Thank you very much, actually hearing this made me so happy, you made my day (especially when I hear the most negative thoughts when I talk about it on the internet) hope you also have a very nice day/night
Yall this energy is all we want happiness, love , drama free, supporting each other...
Making you feel happy was worth it (you made my day too)
Have a nice day
Marriage anyone
Are you and idiot b*tch !????? Huuhhh
You know nothing
Just shut it
You must be both an idiot AND a bitch, because this conversation ended peacefully 10 days ago. Just shut it. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
What the heck is wrong with you?
Mind you that was my opinion, you don't have to agree but pls respect yourself, We were having a civilized conversation until now
At this point he is in the wrong
_first he opened her laptop without her consent or her being with him(I am sorry but that is disrespectful and if someone did that to me I would consider them untrustworthy )
_second from that simple blog he assumed "that part of her" dude it could be for fun or for some research or whatever (she is a human too, she does things in her free time, what did you think? Once she get home she start counting the number on ants that colonized her room floor? NO)
_thirdly he left without saying a word leaving the door open? After being invited and he accepted the invitation (RUDE)
_fourthly if you face a problem in your relationship you communicate it with your partner not run AWAY yall are not children anymore (I get that you got traumatized but at some point you need to get past your trauma to grow up)
Sorry but she doesn't deserve all that stress, self esteem damage, sadness, anxiety she is going through she deserves better