I agree. I personally don't think I'd be able to send my lover to dangerous places each time without having heart attacks. It just seems so stressful, wondering if they're safe out there and then suddenly they go MIA. I wouldn't be able to manage.
But the ex could have definitely handled the breakup better
Ya the break up was poopy but he wants to be loyal to his now boyfriend but he clearly still has love for the other guy. I mean its a lot of pressure and whether he chose the now lover or the before lover, he would have missed the other (if that makes any sense)
tbh i dont think the ex is a bad guy but thats just my opinion