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Well people have different kinks, pet play is not too uncommon when it comes to BDSM

who knows? with the right person...you might actually enjoy it. hee hee

though not everyone gets excited about getting beat.but that's not the only thing there is to BDSM. there's a huge range even without the physical violence.

but having someone play with you until you're quivering and begging for it and seeing how they're loving your reaction...don't you think that's exciting?!

I think doing or not minding it the moment your partner does this kind of play also shows how much you trust your partner.

and a lot of the times, you will talk about what you're okay and not okay with in the beginning anyway including a safe word. so when you're extremely uncomfy with it...they have to stop. that's what healthy bdsm relationships are like.

RIGHT

thats kinda the point- subs in bdsm LOVE to be embarrased, humililation is a common kink to have. Especially pet play, since it includes humiliation, bondage, dominance, roleplay, and degradation. I personally love pet play

the way you worded this makes me wanna do it STOP

HELP i wanna try bdsm, but i feel like petplay might not be the best for me. AND YES I DO THINK ITS EXCITING

Ok then, I would recommend starting very small, like maybe using handcuffs or just a little spank. Depending on what aspect of BDSM you like, you would start with the safest and smallest thing in that kink. You also need to find a good and trustworthy partner. That's the most difficult part, especially if your a submissive. Please be very very careful during your search. I'm a switch personally, and there has been a time where a guy started choking me, even though I don't like that sort of play. I wasn't planning on not being able to speak, so I didn't have a safety motion, so I had to scratch him hard to get him to stop. That's another thing, safe words/motions are EXTREMLEY important. You need to have a signal of when to stop, since in BDSM "stop" never means stop, since your just going along with the play. It's a difficult but really enjoyable kinky world

Are you okay?! Breath play is kinda scary. People need to understand boundaries and discuss things beforehand. Consent is key... and it's sexy.

yeah i'm fine, i just stopped talking to him after that- it was a hook up, so granted I wasn't being careful since I am normally the dom, I didn't realize how hard it is to find good doms. The BDSM world is really fun and pleasurable, especially when you find a partner who suits your tastes, but there are some really fucked up people in the world so you have to be careful

Oh, that's good to hear. Well I hope you find or have a good partner!

Yup! Currently have a great no-strings-attatched partner :)

As long as there is consent and respect, I approve. ;) (Although you don't need my approval...)

lol this is what I meant about bdsm having a huge range outside of physical violence. most people think bdsm just means pain and being tied up...but there's a huge psychological aspect to it and it doesn't necessarily need to have those things in it. this is the whole reason why trust and consent in this community is so important.

there's also the whole thing about gap moe. where people who are typically dominant in real life all of a sudden becoming someone who begs for it or is painfully shy/sensitive. omggggg.

Exactly. Everyone always thinks whips and handcuffs. It's so much more than that.