Just saying for everyone who aren't familiar with the term, parentification is either when a child takes on parental roles through taking care of younger siblings in the stead of their parents or taking on heavy emotional burdens through becoming their parents therapist, confidant, and generally who their parents go to for emotional labor. Generally AFAB people tend to experience parentification than AMAB people due to societal gender norms and ideals and tends to occur a lot in households with a narcissistic parent or structuring with the parents needs Being prioritized. Being a child therapist to your parent is pretty damaging since kids are not able to handle and process adult emotional labor in that manner.
As someone who became a therapist to their mom as a child I've noticed that it personally causes a lot of resentment and bitterness once I became more self aware about the relationship, especially after she got a bf and pretty much abandons my brother and I for days at a time yet whenever she's around I'm still doing emotional labor. And it's like I'm always walking on eggshells around her, and I'm so naturally so attuned to her emotions that if I sense anything is off like she's sad, upset, anxious, etc it ruins my whole day until her mood changes and often times through me "fixing it." I grew up being a people pleaser too because of her and often times would sacrifice my own needs and even physical belongings for the sake of someone else, whether it be my mom or one of my peers.
It seems like since his brother killed himself, that Jaemin became his mom's therapist at a young age and prolly was so until she left and got remarried. He's had no time to grieve for his brother himself since he had to instantly hide and stifle his own feelings in order to take care of his mom's.
Just saying for everyone who aren't familiar with the term, parentification is either when a child takes on parental roles through taking care of younger siblings in the stead of their parents or taking on heavy emotional burdens through becoming their parents therapist, confidant, and generally who their parents go to for emotional labor. Generally AFAB people tend to experience parentification than AMAB people due to societal gender norms and ideals and tends to occur a lot in households with a narcissistic parent or structuring with the parents needs Being prioritized. Being a child therapist to your parent is pretty damaging since kids are not able to handle and process adult emotional labor in that manner.
As someone who became a therapist to their mom as a child I've noticed that it personally causes a lot of resentment and bitterness once I became more self aware about the relationship, especially after she got a bf and pretty much abandons my brother and I for days at a time yet whenever she's around I'm still doing emotional labor. And it's like I'm always walking on eggshells around her, and I'm so naturally so attuned to her emotions that if I sense anything is off like she's sad, upset, anxious, etc it ruins my whole day until her mood changes and often times through me "fixing it." I grew up being a people pleaser too because of her and often times would sacrifice my own needs and even physical belongings for the sake of someone else, whether it be my mom or one of my peers.
It seems like since his brother killed himself, that Jaemin became his mom's therapist at a young age and prolly was so until she left and got remarried. He's had no time to grieve for his brother himself since he had to instantly hide and stifle his own feelings in order to take care of his mom's.