My situation is very similiar to Hyesung's... And even my father who abandoned me and my t...

My situation is very similiar to Hyesung's... And even my father who abandoned me and my two siblings 11 years ago makes the same excuses as Hyesung's mother... The only difference is that my mom is a good mother and my asshole father left because he wanted to have his freedom in fu*king every woman he can fuck. Until now my father calls me when he is drunk and always says how he is our father above everything else with a sad voice. I always ask then:
The why you never cared about us? Why you never asked if i needed anything knowing that mom is over-working herself just to raise us? Why you never came to my graduation ceremony in elementary school, in middle school, in high school? Why you never asked how i did on my exams? Why you never came to see me out of pure care? Why you approached me only if you needed to get something from me? Why you never took a part in my life except for a few phone calls in those 11 years? Even when we moved to another city you never came to look for us.
He always says then
But you didn't come to look for me either. You didn't contact me either. Your mom always restricted our communication and always brainwashed you to stay away from me (which is bullshit). She didnt' let me see you (he never looked for us).
And then I say. You know why? Because you fucking beaten mom all the time when you were drunk, because you always left us alone when Julia was only four, I was seven and Patrick was ten, you fucking left us all alone at home and went drinking. Then you came back drunk and scared Julia to tears. Because I was bullied at school because of you, i always smelt of cigs, other kids hated me. Because i had problems with aggresion in elementary school and you were the cause. Because until i went for high school I had a habit of scratching my hands to blood, i have scars until now. It was my reaction to stress, which developed because of you. Beacuse I have trauma and so many fucking problems with myself that its still hunting me in adult life. I have a disorder common for children from abusing families, also because of you.
Then he pretends he heard nothing and starts to say how he loves us and is our father.

I really hate Hyesung's mother who makes the same excuse ,,because you didn't look for me either" which fucking kid would search for their parent when they abandoned them, caused them to live in hell and didn't want to take care of them? Also for the parent that caused for the kid to have psychological problems and trauma. I understand how Hyesung feels, althought i also yearn to have a father, i can't forgive him no matter what. Because just like Hyesung said it would make us idiots if we did. He did the right thing, he should let her live with the fact she abandoned her own son for the rest of her life. Yes, she left because her husband was abusive and treating her like prostitute, it's obvious she wanted to run away. But Hyesung did nothing wrong and she never came to look for him all those years and makes excuses later on. People abandoned by their parents, lets connect in our pain and anger. (╯°Д °)╯╧╧