Hey Chukisu,
wow that sounds like a messed up situation…
My advice is to ask yourself some questions:
1st how would you feel if either of them went out with another person? would that be ok for you or would it hurt you?
2nd How would you feel if your roles were reversed for example the situation with the letter. Imagine you worked up the courage to confess in a letter and the other party pretended not to have read it.How would you feel about that?
3rd if you had a friend that came to you and asked you for advice like in the post above what would you tell her to do? Try to take a step back and look at your problem like it were somebody elses.
And lastly some advise from myself - a situation especially if love is involved (and even more so if it progressed that much like yours) doesn't get more awkward if you talk about it - it get's more and more awkward if you DON'T talk about it! And if you don't know what you feel or what you want just tell them exactly that! They will understand if they feel that you took their feelings seriously. Everyone knows what it's like to be confused - you don't need to hide that!
And one more thing - say thank you! Thank them for having feelings for you and for them to have shared them with you!
Good luck!
in this case, the things you want to keep you will loose all the more because you held back. sometimes it's better to work up the courage to speak up, even if you fake it... even if you're still shaking (i know because i'm an introvert and awkward in person) but it's better than being stuck in a revolving door, so to say.
I've done no.1 becouse that's quiet common in teenage days.
No.2 i know how painful that one cause my past love did that to me just not to ruin what we have at the moment●︿●
No.3 I would tell them they don't need to feel so troubled cause someone will still be there to stay with them and make them feel less lonely.
I'm a loner myself and all I can do is love but still no one reciprocated it.
Well I always bother her or more like I always look forward in talking to her.
It started of with the usual talking then to me saying I love you too and turned to I'm the only one saying I love you and goodnight and she just answers with thanks
Thanks for the advice ﾟ( ﾟஇ‸இﾟ)ﾟ
Thank you (ಥ_ಥ)
i just read your reaction and wanted to say something about your No.3 because it gave me a bad feeling…
You know you are talking about "someone" here that will stay with "them" to "make them feel less lonely". Who exactly is that someone? Nobody is going to fall out of the sky to make you feel less lonely! YOU will have to decide who the people precious to you are and you have to convey it to them! Tell them "You are important to me", "I need you", "because you are precious to me I want…" If nothings comes through to people THAT always works!
And that no one reciprocates your love - I am sure that is not true! And the reason I am so sure about that is because I have thought like that myself for the longest time… I've got a bunch of hurt bundled up in the love department…I mean I am still a virgin at 25 and never had a real love relationship… But over the last year due to some circumstances I opened up a little - became more honest about what I felt and wanted and I got the first love confession in my life (: Even so a relationship with this guy was impossible I just met somebody 2 weeks ago and it is moving in a nice direction! I know I want that and even so I am scared shitless of getting hurt! Still I never felt so alive...
So don't make others responsible for your loneliness! Because YOU are the only one responsible for that - and I know because I have been there… so head up - and try taking a step into a brighter place!
Thank you (ಥ_ಥ)
Well nowadays I'm practicing loving myself first 'cause "Love yourself" hits me so hard.
And in the middle fixing my trust issues, well I think I over think too much to the point I forgot who I was before high school corrupted me ●︿●, your advise reminded me of what I always say to myself when I was a first year .
"Stay honest and take the risk" （ ＴДＴ）homayglob memories...
I really need advice here.
So I have this friend who I became bestfriends with and we are now 4 years of friendship but actually she confessed to me that she likes me and so turns out I liked her too but after that she didn't made a move, turns out she was distracted by some guy,and so me who was in the middle of liking her felt jealous, and everyday was toxic. There came a day she asked me if we want to be official,remembering the harshful things she did to convey the fact that she liked me, i just replied with a laugh and ignored her.Then there was this other friend also who i dont know if she s also bisexual confessed via letter , i pretended i didnt read it cause i value our friendship and dont like it being awkward, i often avoid the my bestfriend 'cause im waiting for her to make a move on how important i am in her p.v , and it turns out as if she couldnt care less if i avoid her for many days thus she ended up being more close with the other friend , before the current events i talked to her about not liking dictating actions to please me and she just begs me to just say the things that could make me happy, but im sick of it,its love when you do things naturally right?,and so now we dont talk and especially with the other friend cause she broke my trust by manipulating me or so. And now i saw the other friend tag my c.l and it says "Don't wait for me to get tired of you and could care less about you" with her saying "too late"
With C.L replying "it's over".
What should I do? I was looking forward in taking a graduation pic with her but now it's just useless.
My personality is like a cat ,close to shingo's personality.