Bad wording on my part but the god forbid comment was referring to the genre in general but wasn't a targeted attack on this author, it also doesn't mean it was their choice since they have editors and sometimes teams that might make them change things, I still think my criticism about yaoi not having accurate representations of mlm relationships is fair.
Depends on what part you're referring to. I don't expect to see an enema in bl the same way that I don't expect to see periods in hetero romance (sometimes there's a fleeting mention). But, my objection has more to do with how they're portrayed to fit a certain narrative, it would be like portraying characters of other ethnicities using exclusively stereotypes, something that would understandably rub people the wrong way.
It doesn't have with sexual fluency but my initial comment talked about representation. My claim was never that there are no explicit tops or bottoms and I'm very curious how you came to that conclusion. Although the evidence provided is completely anecdotal and thus only reflects your experience. Statistically speaking from the limited amount of research done on gay and bi men, approximately 45% are switches, 35% are exclusive bottoms and about 15% are exclusive tops (these are approximations not the exact numbers).
It looked like the entire premise was for them to be a switch couple, but of course they weren't because God forbid we actually have any realistic representation of gay relationships that might offend the straight fujoshis who want to see heteronormative interactions. The baby was cute. The mom should have been excommunicated. I said what I said.