agree, Its just the wording and kind of realistic aspect that hurts, i kinda relates with being hard to approach, unfriednly and quiet but thats all becuz i have no skills of talking to people and english is not my first language so it makes things worse. His way of saying is straight foward and a bit harsh and also hard to accept but its true ╮(￣▽￣)╭ but also, its not that easy to just erase negative thoughts and became friendly all of a sudden. Thats why when someone say something like that, I'd also gets hurt becuz its like they r saying that its our own fault for not having friends becuz we're like this kind of? Its true, its true but you know(￣∇￣")
yeah it's understandable to have a low self esteem and be pessimistic sometimes, but some people need to realize that they're protecting themselves with words that hurt those closest to them.
When you have social anxiety and ppl straight up tell you that everything is your fault even if they are sometimes partly correct its stil extremely upsetting and annoying cause ppl with social anxiety or just issues in general do wish that they could just get along with other fine but it way harder than it seems.
İ personally have social anxiety and sometimes even when i talk to my cloee friends i end up stuttering or messing up my sentence so imagine how bad i am with people that i m not that close
And if someone ever came onto me and straight up told me that its my fault, even if they are correct i would still be mad toward them cause they dont feel what i feel and they didnt live my experiances, so what right do they have to force their values on me even tho i m trying to do my best to improve myself? Like if i could just socialize fine i would have already done it but if i am unable too what can i do
precisely.
it doesn’t hurt to be more cautious with the way you speak, especially if you’ve just made friends with someone.
if you want to continue being “harsh” thinking it won’t hurt them, then don’t be surprised if you find them drifting even further away from you.
there’s a reason why yamana apologised in the end you know
We all say things we don't mean to be harsh that's what I meant. Like what you just said. Telling me if I'm too honest I'll have people not want to be around me.
We all take things differently so... (￣∇￣")
it's not too late to work on yourself ♡
If you’re telling me you usually don’t filter your thoughts before saying something most of the time, then that’s what I was referring to.
However if you acknowledge that you were harsh at any one time and ended up hurting someone’s feelings, a simple apology like yamana did, will do.
Just explaining that not everyone likes to hear the truth even if it rings true. If it hurts you in a way, I am sorry but you get what I mean right? Like “who are you to tell me that”? That’s what’s going on in most people’s minds, especially those who barely know you.
Bruh that happens to me all the time when some random ass guy came up to me saying, "you're really quite, you know that?" no shit sherlock.
Sometimes when I get stuck in project with some annoying assholes, they'd be like "you know you're really quiet and boring, thats why you're such a loner, maybe try be more friendly?" LIKE TF, DO I KNOW YOU? I aint there to enetertain you and she didn't even knows me, it took her an hour to make her think sne knows all about me lol that lil b got me fuck up. Its so easy huh, so easy to make friends and talk to random ass people without having negative thougts or anxiety (╬￣皿￣)凸
Take it from a girl who constantly opens her big mouth (⊙…⊙ ) he just meant it as in "why you so negative? That's why you've got no friends." It's true, but obviously it's harsh. It's like saying "if you weren't so mopey people would like you." Also sounds harsh, but true. Uke needs to listen to seme. He's trying to help.