Well I truly agree with you. Even tho he did everything for protecting card but he couldn't in the end. It's all MC's efforts that she's surving rn. He action hurt her deeply mc was obsessed with Mikhail bc she was carving for love and affection attention which her father couldn't have her at all.. well even tho he's cool and handsome he's a failure as parents. Ik ppl will say that he had reasons but no. That's all excuses he could have warn mc(when she was young) about everything and she can survive gave her love she deserves they can pretend to be distance outside but no he didn't. Even now she's at some point she can lose life anytime. It's about her life and she deserves to know about it.. even tho mc was isekaied but real mc died without knowing the truth without receiving love. She never had anyone and truly died lonely death and lots of "misunderstanding" and Mikhail was never a hero in last tl he's a scum from the beginning.
I don't really know what to say without upsetting people on the situation with the MC's dad?
Like I am absolutely furious that he's irresponsible as a father.
I know that a lot of people like him because he's pretty and no, I will not take the excuse "he's trying" because he's not trying hard enough. And I just don't care for him at all. If he somehow gets forgiven without crying and truly regretting how he treated her, then I will throw a fit. Nothing less than outright crying and admission of regret will get me to not hate him as a parent.
And I think the confusion is that he's a good person but an absolutely terrible father. He cares, but what's the use of caring if you can't show it in a way that matters. You might as well not care. He's worried but never shows or tells her that he is, and honestly he's just a problematic parent. You cannot give negative reinforcement without positive reinforcement. Children are impressionable and hopeful. You can't just screw around with them.
And I don't want to upset those who excuse him, and children are traumatised easily, and it's difficult not to screw them up especially if it's your first time, I will concede that.
But it's also ridiculously easy to be a decent parent.
Just set healthy boundaries and be as supportive of them as you can as long as they aren't hurting themselves. That's it. Those are all the rules. Also treat them like a person, but that goes without saying.
I hate the "bad at communicating emotions dad" archetype because they excuse neglectful/bad parents overall on the basis that they care about you. But no matter how much you care about someone, if you can't provide the things they need, you aren't good enough. If you put your job over your child, you need to sort yourself out or do something about it so you can make a compromise. Does he carry literally one braincell geared towards fighting? No? Then he can be a decent dad.
His entire demeanour leads the one who died (before the MC took over) to believe that her father hates her and wishes for her death at the very last minute, making her believe that she's nothing to him otherwise. Tell me that doing that to a person isn't anywhere near despicable.
He might be trying, but that doesn't erase the things he did/didn't do.