I think these comments are pretty bad. A lot of them victim shaming Tom, calling him a cheater. He isn't a cheater, when someone says NO then it MEANS NO and there are no buts... It's the same as saying they asked for it because they dressed that way. Just because he isn't killing him in that exact moment doesn't mean he wants it, not everyone reacts the same in those kinds of situations, not everyone has that fight instinct. I agree they had a communication problem but not everyone can be honest with other people from the start, it takes time (even years) to tear down the walls we build ourselves so we won't get hurt. It's not easy sharing your thoughts and feelings with others, especially if you're having a hard time. Sometimes you don't grow up with the luxury that you can depend on others and when you finally find that someone changing your way of thinking and doing it is really hard.
I strongly believe if Tom was a girl in this story the comments would be totally different. Not every guy is a strong, extroverted person who can fight his way out of a bad situation just because he's a guy, people don't have just one type of personality or can be judged differently because they are a certain gender or sexuality.
I think these comments are pretty bad. A lot of them victim shaming Tom, calling him a cheater. He isn't a cheater, when someone says NO then it MEANS NO and there are no buts... It's the same as saying they asked for it because they dressed that way. Just because he isn't killing him in that exact moment doesn't mean he wants it, not everyone reacts the same in those kinds of situations, not everyone has that fight instinct. I agree they had a communication problem but not everyone can be honest with other people from the start, it takes time (even years) to tear down the walls we build ourselves so we won't get hurt. It's not easy sharing your thoughts and feelings with others, especially if you're having a hard time. Sometimes you don't grow up with the luxury that you can depend on others and when you finally find that someone changing your way of thinking and doing it is really hard.
I strongly believe if Tom was a girl in this story the comments would be totally different. Not every guy is a strong, extroverted person who can fight his way out of a bad situation just because he's a guy, people don't have just one type of personality or can be judged differently because they are a certain gender or sexuality.