Honestly, that is so sexist thing to say.
I understand that that can feel sexist but the sad truth is that some people actually believe that, so some writers will use that thought process. I think that's what Fujoshi was trying to say.
No, I've read stories by men who write this. They write women who get raped as defiled women. And that actually pisses me off a lot. If you see some tweets, you'll see some men have actually written that they wouldn't date a girl who got raped.
There's one thing to notice, if you see, the stories which are written by men often show that when a girl is raped the man leaves him for she's "defiled". But in stories written by women show that when a person is raped, that person's partner becomes much more protective of the person.