it's just that a literal highschooler and a woman who is literally working an office job is weird lol
Really? I was in highschool not too long ago (1 or 2 years ago) and now Im working an office job. The time difference is nothing. Sounds like you're being influenced by the social stigma lol
she's like 8 years older than him which kinda makes me iffy
Sounds like negative social stigma Yeah this isn't really going anywhere. My response back to you is pretty much my original comment.
I think there are many more important factors here than age. People are all unique all with varying levels of maturity and varying levels of growth; your innate character and personality is also a factor.
We can already see what sort of character he was when he was younger. He calls out to fl and saves her from a dangerous situation, displaying not only an impressive sense of awareness and perception but also his courage and kindness by acting out in order to save her. Hell, I don't even know if the regular working adult is capable of that.
Now throughout the manga he continues to show these characteristics, he is kind and genuine, and guess what? seems like the fl is falling for him.
Let me put this another way. Lets say we have 2 people applying for a job, they are both equally qualified, both have shown exceptional knowledge for the job. The hiring manager is leaning towards one but then they find out their age and is like "Oh no, youre too young, that makes me uneasy, it's iffy"
Do you see what Im getting at? Anyways thats all I have to say
No matter how "mature" one seems at 18, you're never as mature as you think you are. I'm that woman's age, and I look back at my 20 year old self and I know I was kind of a dumbass. Aside from that, you're still dependent when you're in highschool; even if you're of legal age and in college, you're on risk of financial abuse or strong and toxic co-dependence if your partner is much older. The ideal is not just being with someone of legal age, but someone at relatively the same life stage, that's why a 30 year old and a 40 year old dating is nor a big deal anymore.
it's also the extreme power imbalance that's a problem ^_^ even if you think that you're not that different from who you were back then. that isn't true for everyone
What Ive been saying is that it's gonna be a different case for every person because everyone matures differently. For me I can say that Ive barely changed since highschool (I might have been smarter back then actually lmao, Im losing brain cells from lack of use).
Evaluating everyone based off the same set of standards is weird to me. Theres no set age where everyone suddenly obtains the status of being "mature". I guarantee you that yes actually, there are 18 year olds who are mature beyond their years and also vice versa; adults who will never grow up and stay immature, which is why judging purely based off age just doesn't work.
To me these two are perfectly fine together, I don't feel any "power imbalance" like another user said. They speak to each other as equals (actually ml has been the one teaching and helping fl all this time)
They're both mature enough to make their own decisions, and I think all those moral judgements and rules that society likes to impose are just dumb and also not an outsiders business as long as both are happy.
If yall are uncomfortable with it that's perfectly fine (you cant change societal conditioning very easily), but just know that I think it's none of your business to be judging if they got into a relationship
But is is true for some people. You're unconsciously proving my point; because everyone is different you can't evaluate purely based off age.
You're very sus and icky trying to justify this, m8. Just read articles about it because there's no use trying to convince someone like you.
"But she's very mature for her age" is legit the excuse pedophiles use. Our brains aren't even done developing at 25, just date people your age, or who already went through the most important stages of adulthood.
Lmao you think this is a case of pedophila? Maybe youre the one who should do some reading up.
So according to your moral rules of conduct that you want to force on everyone, you can only date if you're:
a) the same age and or
b) over 25
Brilliant stuff, just brilliant.
Hilarious how you straight up dismiss everything I say with no reasoning but "sus" and "icky" and yet your logic is just nonsensical moral policing
I guess the age difference is not the problem, it's because he's still in high school
^^^^
Are you getting payed for being this dense? You should, you're great at it.
You didn't miss the point by a mile, but by 10K kilometers. Just keep saying age is "just a number" and pat yourself on the back at it.
"Social stigma" ok pedo.
You're the one focused on reducing people to numbers here lol. Don't blame me for your own words that don't make sense ¯_(ツ)_/¯. Youll go around throwing these moral rules of conduct saying only ppl of "similar life stages" should date (whatever the hell thats supposed to mean) and yet you have no issue with a yaoi like Form of Sympathy where Yuri is straight out of highschool and is with his forner teacher
Dating a minor is definitely a grey zone. Just what gets me is that although he is able to perfectly pass off as a college student, because he's in highschool his love isn't allowed? Is his love not genuine? Feels like he is just completely dismissed from the equation. Then if they were to be together then oh, shes a pedo, theres a power balance and it's a bad terrible manipulative/unhealthy relationship amirite?
"dating a minor is definitely a grey zone" well that's a red flag LMAOOOOOOOO
Youre literally jumping at nothing mate. Im saying it how it is. Guess what? All those laws and morals that you guys have been spouting? There is absolutely nothing thats stops an 18 year old from dating whoever they want. The reason it is a grey area is that it's definitely possible that there could be a manipulative/toxic relationship BUT not all relationships with an age gap and an 18 year old are like this. toxic relationships are toxic; being 18 and with someone older does not automatically fulfill the criteria of a toxic relationship
LMAOOOOO THERE'S NOTHING THAT STOPS THEM?? YEAH CUS THAT'S CALLED BEING A PEDO. THERE'S NOTHING STOPPING PEOPLE FROM MURDERING OR ASSAULTING OTHERS, BUT WE KNOW THAT THAT'S BAD TOO?? YOUR LOGIC MAKES NO SENSE HAAHHAA (︶︿︶)＝凸
Why is age such a big deal for yall as viewers? It's like first and foremost before age he's still himself. And as himself his maturity is definitely there, if he can pass off as a college student perfectly fine even after hanging out with him and getting to know him then at that point youre just discrimating against his age right? And being influenced by the negative social stigma ಠ‿ಠ