I don’t really know if they are being fetishized or not but these are pretty realistic
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/blue_sky_complex/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/itoshi_no_nekokke/
Idk if this is considered fetishised but its based on a true story http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/until_i_meet_my_husband/
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/here_u_are/?1bfA pretty well known, but just in case u havent tried it. this manga addresses the pressure gays are put under pretty well, there is a fujoshi girl in there who ships the main characters HOWEVER the story addresses that as well and she realizes that her mindset is incorrect later in the story-- she does not play a big role so it's not a big deal
can y’all recommend me bl’s that isn’t fetishized by straight/not girls? cus i’ve already seen a lot of them fetishizing