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I'm an asian gay man. In my personal life, feminine terms like "girlfriend" "wife" "mom" are too often used to degrade a guy, to mock gay couples, and to enforce gender stereotype on gay people in general. So i have too many negative associations with those words. Aside from that, i do think that authors should stop normalizing using those words when depicting gay relationship because it does encourage gender normativity and role stereotype in some ways.
Everyone keeps recommending this to me but i couldn't even finish chapter 1 because the author made the MC call himself a "housewife"... one of my biggest pet peeves :(