It pisses me off how irresponsible she is. BDSM is not giving someone carte Blanche to do ...

I want to hit her Badly she's not even trying to understand how bdsm works and she's Giving him a hard time

For real. Has she even heard of checking in?! They didn't have a conversation about limits or consent. She's just abusing him too.

So, she's been writing a BDSM blog for a bit and 1) not familiar w/ the behaviour/power structure, 2) the responsibility of being a D (nor her sub aware of his rights as a sub), 3) only has limited/basic knowledge of the vocab (but not put to use, and 4) Haven't even set up a legit contract w/ hard/soft limits and safe word/gestures.

It's a good thing that this is only a piece of fiction, but still KIDDOS DO NOT TAKE THIS AS GOSPEL--THERE ARE A LOT (I MEAN A LOT) OF RULES when you choose this lifestyle. It's not about sex all the time

Yes exactly!!! She writes a fucking blog but has somehow not even basic knowledge? Thank gosh she at least took a rope class since could potentially cause permanent nerve damage if you don't know what you're doing. Throw RACK right out the window.

Why is it you guys never comment on stuff like [A Physical Education] where the BDSM is more extreme but start flaming the moment when the dom is a girl?

Just read this. http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/a_physical_education/ TLDR, porn is porn, don’t hate on irresponsible doms because they’re FICTIONAL, just put yourself in the dom’s shoes and you wouldn’t find her actions so irritating because you’d be the one doing them.

This is not porn.

And a big part why I hate it so much is because I'm a dom. Unfortunately, it happens way too much in real life, in large part because of media like this.

As a domme, I’d much rather be represented as a flawed, morally grey character (eg. Doona, Alex, YeEun) than a blank slate(eg. A bunch of those gentle femdom FLs). I expected the people complaining about the female leads to be subs or switches with the way they hold their standards. My standards are higher for male leads/subs because I find them sexually and romantically desirable as a domme. If a femdom manga was created where the FL is a serial killer or/and rapist, I wouldn’t mind because I’d be seeing the world through her viewpoint.

I don’t read for a handibook on how to do BDSM, those things exist already on the internet. I read to see flawed characters with a sense of depth navigate their relationships with the frequent addition of BDSM.

For me --- haven't read - simply put.

Thank you for saying that--have discussed w/ my D and he said pretty much the same. Sometimes people take what they read as fiction as how it is irl- not true.

Okay- so went and read first chapter (A physical education)- yeaaahhh, def non-con but coercion. Not my cup of tea so I will not be reading that one as it has nothing of true substance. Not even close to this story of fumbling BDSM beginnings. AT least here, the FL is stupid by not thinking things thru, that one .......yeah no thanks.

she is still learning .

You can literally hurt or psychologically traumatize someone if you don't know what you're doing. The basic knowledge which she somehow doesn't have is all over the internet. You can still be learning and not be completely reckless and irresponsible with someone's health and safety.

You can be morally grey/not a blank slate while not abusing an already very traumatized person. I don't find that compelling writing.

Like I said, being a dom is exactly why I have high standards for doms. I'm not even a soft/gentle dom, I just have no interest in hurting someone who doesn't want it because that's abuse. I'd much rather they be begging for it. I know way too many people who've been abused under the guise of bdsm to find it appealing.