I mean,-

CoupleTherapist January 27, 2021 1:22 pm

I kinda want to see Hyesung with an omegaaaa - Why Dojin so pressed? Hyesung didn't even get to experience & had to get married straight away

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    groma January 27, 2021 2:32 pm

    HELL NO

    Aka-chan January 27, 2021 2:50 pm

    No need to have experience in sex or love at risk of getting hurt when you found true love, someone who loves you unconditionally, someone who's devoted to you, who'd do anything for you, who's faithfull and crazy about you, someone who don't see anything but you, who protect you, take care of you, who's rich, sexy, sweet and passionate, well for me I would say, that there's no need to go search the world, I'd rather have no experience in love or what so ever and have that person by my side, than have all experience in love with risk issues such as ending up being hurt, cheated, abused, ending up with a broken heart, trust issues, scars that won't be gone even in the next relationship etc....
    I think Hye sung is really lucky to have Dojin, he met him when he was in was in his most vulnerable state and at that time hye sung could have been abused etc in the end he found true love and that's a pity that sometimes it feels like hye sung takes it for granted, well that's just my opinion and you can all disagree if you want ╮( ̄▽ ̄)╭

    CoupleTherapist January 27, 2021 4:10 pm
    No need to have experience in sex or love at risk of getting hurt when you found true love, someone who loves you unconditionally, someone who's devoted to you, who'd do anything for you, who's faithfull and cr... Aka-chan

    Okay, I agree with you on some points and see where you coming from- but Dojin wasn't always the perfect husband . He HAS HURT Hye-sung, maybe unintentionally or unaware of it BUT HE DID HURT HIM MULTIPLE TIMES. + Experience is something good to have (even if it hurts us) bc it helps us to identify when we are being treated wrong by someone (similar to how ppl gain an immune system against a virus after interacting with it) & It helps us to discover what we like. I have yet to see Dojin help Hyesung explore his sexuality . Dojin has only given him the D- BUT WHAT IF OUR BOY WANTS SOME ASS TOO???? I get the bliss some ppl feel bc they don't crave what they haven't tasted :PPP BUT COME ON- What if Hyesung really is attracted to omegas ? T T If he is, Dojin can't turn a blind eye to it bc that's not smth that can be controlled. + As an ACTUALLY GREAT partner, Dojin should encourage our boy to explore and get to know himself and what he likes.

    CoupleTherapist January 27, 2021 4:11 pm
    HELL NO groma

    WHY NOOO? T T

    CoupleTherapist January 27, 2021 4:15 pm
    No need to have experience in sex or love at risk of getting hurt when you found true love, someone who loves you unconditionally, someone who's devoted to you, who'd do anything for you, who's faithfull and cr... Aka-chan

    Btw, who said Dojin will always be that way? The fact remains, sometimes love fades. If they won't explore & bring new things into their relationship it will soon get boring they'll start cheating on each other. That's how it goes a lot of the time bc humans are curious & are above the basic lifestyle of fuck, eat, sleep.(well, most likely DOJIN ON HYESUNG bc hyesung PHYSICALLY can't)

    groma January 27, 2021 10:28 pm
    WHY NOOO? T T CoupleTherapist

    no

    CoupleTherapist January 27, 2021 11:03 pm
    no groma

    But just imagine

    groma January 28, 2021 3:45 am
    But just imagine CoupleTherapist

    i’d rather suffocate myself with a pillow

    Aka-chan January 28, 2021 4:06 am
    Okay, I agree with you on some points and see where you coming from- but Dojin wasn't always the perfect husband . He HAS HURT Hye-sung, maybe unintentionally or unaware of it BUT HE DID HURT HIM MULTIPLE TIMES... CoupleTherapist

    I think I get what you want to say, and from my point of view both characters made mistakes during this long story, they 've hurt each other, broke apart, got back together but that's what build up their relationship to what it is at this point of the story. (Still I think the issu in those last chapters are about trust issues that Dojin has and a serious problem of communication in their relationship) But let's not forget that that's fiction.
    I agree with you concerning the fact that if hye sung wants to try new things in their relationship he can and Dojin should encourage him and help him finding out what he likes BUT by new things I exclude cheating, threesome, exchanging partners and all those weird stuff extramarital.

    However if hye-sung is really interested in omegas or any of these stuff (well if we stay in the omegaverse, in my opinion it's probably not the case, because in those last chapters he still loves Dojin ┑( ̄Д  ̄)┍), well if you were right and suddenly he has a change of heart and he wants to try new stuff and have experiences, well it's up to him, but for me it'd be more correct to divorce Dojin than go explore new stuff.

    Concerning relationships:
    I agree with you that not knowing things and be ignorant in a relationship is not a good thing cause you are just innocent and thus can be easily fooled but getting experiences isn't the only way to prevent things, and be aware. You can just inform yourself, learn things from wiser people that have made past mistakes, the elders for example, so that you'll be aware of wrong doings, that's an alternative.

    Besides, I don't think the soul/mind/spirit where you have feelings, can be compared to a body system that is physiologicaly regulated, automatically, a system that has no feelings. So that can't be compared. One is a machine (the body) the other is what's make us human being (the spirit)

    I mean the body and the spirit are two different things: the immune systeme will face new pathogen agent and will react to it automatically, with some physical consequences but certainly there're therapies to recover the body and by the time you're body will eventually adapt to the environment. But what about the mind ? If you're badly hurt in a relationship, it's your soul that is hurt. Psychological damages are way more deleterious on the long term for a person and which may not be recovered so easily than when the immune sytem react to new viruses. It's just not the same injury, not the same pain not the same recover, not the same scars. One will heal cause it's purely physical and get stronger, the other, healing is not so sure.

    Aka-chan January 28, 2021 4:22 am
    Btw, who said Dojin will always be that way? The fact remains, sometimes love fades. If they won't explore & bring new things into their relationship it will soon get boring they'll start cheating on each ... CoupleTherapist

    You got a point and in Real life that is totally true. But in omegaverse, as I understood of this universe relationships are slightly different there is this notion of true love when a couple found their bonded partner, and that's what I'm talking about when I bring fidelity in the équation of love in omegaverse

    CoupleTherapist January 28, 2021 11:48 am
    i’d rather suffocate myself with a pillow groma

    I bet the omega Hyesung would be railing would so so too to suffocate the m0ans sgfwkrfkkl-

    CoupleTherapist January 28, 2021 11:49 am
    i’d rather suffocate myself with a pillow groma

    CoupleTherapist January 28, 2021 12:45 pm
    I think I get what you want to say, and from my point of view both characters made mistakes during this long story, they 've hurt each other, broke apart, got back together but that's what build up their relati... Aka-chan

    Ohhh, I see, okayyyy- basically, we come from two different sides of beliefs, so that might be why we disagree. + I picked the immune system examples to make sure it was clear what I was trying to say. I understand that the heart heals differently, but even if it does, we still gain more knowledge on what is good and what is bad for us. Most of the time, hearing about something won't save us from making that mistake - that's why work experience is so much more valuable than 'book' knowledge, especially in professions. Humans tend to think "well, that won't happen to me".
    Also, I don't really think of the spirit that high, or I'm not even sure if it exists (same in omega-verse. In some comics, writers explore the idea that what Omegas feel for Alphas and vice-versa (the fated pair) is just a biological match - meaning "you'll make good babies that will survive easier in the wild" (& I'm saying 'in the wild', bc it takes millions of years for a function or smth similar to it to disappear from a species' biological coding/drive.( I feel like omega-verse developed on these principles bc, in many interpretations, they have an evolution process identical to us and are in an environment that is nearly indifferent to ours.))). In those comics some fated pairs who believed they would be happier with a stranger they just met and felt a 'zing' for ended up forming abusive relationships ( bc what if the alpha assigned to you by the big mamma nature is a misogynistic dick who thinks you're only good for babies and seggs?) At the end of the day, seeing how both these dynamics have a heat and rut cycle, the core purpose of these two are to reproduce since the cycles would have been useful and more successful for leaving behind offspring before death and continuing the clan/pride. (Fun fact lol, a higher chance of leaving offspring is also thought to be linked to why men have morning wood.).

    BASICALLY, I think fated pairs are not liked to being soulmates and bonding is just a way to keep the omega in place from hoeing around. Soulmates are something that needs to be found through getting to know the person, not their pheromones bc humans are far more complex than other monogamous animals. ( It might be a little too scientific for a made-up world, haha, but I analyze stupid things when I have a random energy blast to feel bored).

    & I ABSOLUTELY AGREE ON THE RELATIONSHIP PART. Sometimes it's much better to divorce but it's also a decision that takes a lot of time to make, believe me, I know. There are a lot of fears and corners that come with starting off from ground one, especially if your partner is a dick who wants to take the child away and leave you in the streets. + Although I know some ppl prefer marriage to a closed relationship, it all depends on the person. I don't encourage cheating, but if BOTH partners agree that they want to see other ppl to fulfill their fantasies & all - I think it's totally fine. Sometimes, you just can't force yourself to do something that your partner wants to try, but it also doesn't mean that you should suppress said partner's wants and needs.
    In all honesty, Dojin and Hyesung could work BUT THEY NEED COUPLE THERAPY LIKE- ON GOD. Dojin has some problems with jealousy/insecurities and Hyesung hasn't addressed a lot of his inner conflicts, therefore, he can't really give someone else the love that they want until he comes at peace with himself and his own problems. Like, I really want to see them be happy and loving towards each other. I want to see them bake a cake together for Byul's 3rd birthday party ヾ(❀^◡^)ノ~, have fun & wild vacation in Bahamas where they'd look more in love than ever with romantic background music & moreeee. They have issues, but so does everyone. As soon as they resolve them it'll be the most satisfying ending to a story.

    CoupleTherapist January 28, 2021 12:47 pm
    You got a point and in Real life that is totally true. But in omegaverse, as I understood of this universe relationships are slightly different there is this notion of true love when a couple found their bonded... Aka-chan

    I mean, you're neither right ot wrong. Omega-verse isn't something cannon so it can be interpreted in different ways. Whether it's true love or not, it depends on the reader

    CoupleTherapist January 28, 2021 12:53 pm
    Ohhh, I see, okayyyy- basically, we come from two different sides of beliefs, so that might be why we disagree. + I picked the immune system examples to make sure it was clear what I was trying to say. I unders... CoupleTherapist

    Fuck- there are so many mistakes, but im not gonna fix them lol. I hope you'll do good and find out what some typos meant based on the context of what im talking about