Raymond may be an asshole in our modern world, but looking at this with a 18th century poi...

Hey, I have an idea: send Ian to Nersia. You know. Because this situation isn’t a one-to-one between Ian DYING and him staying in a situation where he has to watch the selfish asshole who is DEFINITELY USING HIM marry someone else.
If Ian goes to Nersia, he can build his own damn life, free of being used as a mistress.

Please don't exaggerate the concepts I pointed forward, I was rash in writing them and I understand that they could be read as absolutes.
I just wanted to point that the choice Raymond is making, although selfish, is not unbelievable or unrealistic, especially given the setting.

I'm not saying that Raymond is doing THE RIGHT THING. No. But that in this context it would have made sense.

Also, I am convinced that Raymond loves Ian and is not thinking about using him. Raymond is discovering love, he is not familiar with it, has obvious difficulties managing it and admitting it to himself.

What I wanted to really say in the end is that I like the story, both main characters despite their flaws and I like the angsty mess. Also I look forward to a possible character growth for both Ian (in confidence) and Raymond (in being honest with himself and his feelings) and I hope in a happy ending, after all the story is about their love story so I hope they will be together.

Agreed, this story is awesome.
But what about “clipping his wings” could possibly be read as anything other than monstrous?
Raymond loves Ian, but not in any healthy, selfless sense.
If love is to be defined as selflessness and sacrifice for another person’s sake, then Raymond’s feelings for Ian are nothing more than possessiveness.
Granted, there is demonstrably more to it than that, but this is toxic and gross, and I honestly think that Ian had too little experience with healthy relationships (like, none) for his being with Raymond to ever be a good idea, because one person quite clearly has all the power here.

First of all, Thank you for discussing with me, I like to share ideas like this, I never get to do it much.

Yes I agree with your ideas.
However I have optimistic expectations for the story in terms of growing into a more healthy relationship, because the author is giving us the "uncomfortable" feeling, you know what I mean? It's not a toxic situation that is not addressed, instead It's toxic and we are noticing it palpably.
There Is Raymond who is selfish, immature in relationships and conflicted, he's trying to keep everything together and noticing that there is something with Ian but there are also social power dynamics, and Ian who doesn't want to admit to himself that he is bothered by the situation, and feeling lost and betrayed, falling into a big depressive hole.
What I see is that there is a clear fracture that is making us uncomfortable and feel bad, so I think change is coming, and I hope we all get a character growth from this.

I try to imagine them together in the end mostly because, realistically speaking, the story is getting us to believe that they will be together in a right way someday.
I mean, it's not like "Love and Hate" where we actually have the protagonist almost fall in love with someone else, and this someone is actually an interesting character that is properly addressed inside the plot dynamics, where you actually fall for it and start thinking "oh man I like this boy, please be together for real real now"

Also, I am trying to justify the characters through plot necessity, but that doesn't mean I condone what it's happening, I do agree with the things you said, but it's also through hardship and experience that a character develops, so I confide in that.

Alright, on that much, we can definitely agree.